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Regrets: the Comeback

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Regrets: the Comeback

What to do when you are a former rockstar, or not.

Life's misses - Regret

Life’s misses – Regret

It started with an insurance presentation. I had a good but emotionally draining day. She talks a lot. And I also get to talk more. I got to visit parts of my life. And it became a little time for reflection about my life. Sorry guys, this is another melancholly post.

While listening to Goo Goo Dolls on back ground, I took the time to check why the lyrics kind of hit me well. “Iris” was a song from an angel wanting to give up immortality – to be human. All for love.

And then Sympathy. It was written by Johnny Rzeznik, while he was going through his divorce – the song is based on mistakes he made, taking fame for granted and not seeing what he had when he had it.

Sympathy by Goo Goo Dolls
Stranger than your sympathy
And this is my apology
I’m killing myself from the inside out
And all my fears have pushed you outAnd I wished for things that I don’t need
(all I wanted)
And what I chase won’t set me free
(it’s all I wanted)
And I get scared but I’m not crawlin’ on my kneesOh, yeah
Everything’s all wrong, yeah
Everything’s all wrong, yeah
Where the hell did I think I was?And stranger than your sympathy
I take these things, so I don’t feel
I’m killing myself from the inside out
And now my head’s been filled with doubt

It’s hard to lead the life you choose
(all I wanted)
And all your luck’s run out on you
(all I wanted)
And you can’t see when all your dreams are coming true

Oh, yeah
It’s easy to forget, yeah
When you choke on the regrets, yeah
Who the hell did I think I was?

And stranger than your sympathy
And all these thoughts you stole from me
And I’m not sure where I belong
And nowhere’s home and I’m all wrong

And I was in love with things I tried to make believe I was
And I wouldn’t be the one to kneel before the dreams I wanted
And all the talk and all the lies were all the empty things disguised as me

I’m getting isolated in this cycle of changes in my life. A work in transit in Iloilo and Bacolod, trying to find myself. Highlights of my life fly back to me. I don’t have a wife yet, or a “fame” past. But I don’t have to get there to experience what he had. I believe we squander memories reaching for the money, the fame or the girl. You lost track of what really matters – friendships. This is my way of grieving for seasons that have passed. There are many things I take for granted that other people yearn only in their wildest dreams. They say “Life happens when we are busy making other plans.” – Allen Saunders. We were busy chasing dreams when those that really mattered were there all along.

Regret and Frustration

Regret and Frustration

Being gifted is both a blessing and a curse. It’s the temptation of feeling you are invincible and wanting to conquer the world. I’m just glad, God didn’t give it when I wanted it bad. But the lost time is full of frustration of things that could be.

I guess grieving makes you better.

When you have time, take a moment to coffee with the friends you treasure. The cost of the cup is irrelevant. When you can take your friends out to lunch or dinner. Do a favor that your friends don’t expect. Let them know you care. Spend time with your siblings, mom and dad. Joke around and play with your cousins.

I also wished then that I had the muscles of gratefulness. Contentment happens when we trust that God knows our needs better than we know our own. Wish I knew instead of losing more years. But again, instead of rushing thankfulness to make up for lost time, trusting Him again that His timing is perfect.

Thanks Bianc.

What can you be thankful for today?

Regret changes into thankfulness

Regret changes into thankfulness


Author: Archian

An Architect, Blogger and Strategic Thinker

One thought on “Regrets: the Comeback

  1. “I take these things, so I don’t feel
    I’m killing myself from the inside out
    And now my head’s been filled with doubt.”

    Well aside from having the best of both worlds, it’s a really great idea of being an inner rockstar. haha.

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