Comfort Zone Challenge – Joyfully Meeting Israel
First Part of 2
I’m back after a long vacation. And what I learned is that life cannot be lived inside the safeties of my room. We have to move beyond our boundaries to discover what real life is.
Enter Comfort Zone Challenge
As part of my personal goals, I have pursued this comfort zone challenge in the past week. It is not that spectacular to others but it is memorable for me.
First, what are comfort zone challenges? From, Comfort Zone challenges is defined as “A Comfort Zone Challenge is a planned action to face a fear with the primary goal of overcoming this fear or increasing your courage and confidence. This action includes a calculated risk of negative social evaluation but does not expose you to real danger or long-term negative consequences.”
It is similar to Exposure therapy which is a therapy to cure people with specific phobias by exposing a person to a feared stimulus (eg. a spider, heights, for me pretty gorgeous women haha!, speaking in public) until a your mind no longer responds with fear to what would previously cause a panic response. What happens when you are exposed to a frightening but non-dangerous stimulus? Over time your fear will decrease, and after several exposures, the fear will vanish.
Why do we need comfort zone challenges? I am naturally shy around women and it shows in my life. But for everyone else I am sure that these activities encourage us to increase courage and confidence. And whatever endeavor you pursue, more than skill, talent and knowledge, I believe courage and confidence are important if you want to accomplish extraordinary dreams in life
Comfort Zone Challenges are a tool to prepare yourself for real life situations and should therefore be distinct from real life situations. For example, if you are at a party and you see a really interesting girl whom you have always wanted to talk to but have been too afraid to approach, then this is not a Comfort Zone Challenge. This is a real life situation where your primary goal is to get to know the person.
How are comfort zone challenges contrast to:
- Comfort Zone Challenge the goal is to become more confident and courageous
- Real Life has real consequences. The goal is to win a friend, get a date, get a point across, speak up, ask for what you want
- Prank – the goal is to get funny reactions from people
- Dare – the goal is to impress the other person
My Comfort Zone Goal.
My Goal is to meet 10 pretty Caucasian women and have a picture with them. *Having your goal clear enough is very important so that you don’t compromise and you know when you have accomplished it. I have met a few before the first approach but because I wasn’t clear that I was to have a picture with them, so it didn’t count.
Judgements I have to accept.
Undertaking anything of value to you will have judgements from other people whether positive or negative. Being a Christian, undertaking this goal and posting this publicly will brand you a playboy and a player. There’s also the expectation of needing this girls you meet to be Christians. There are also the self judgements that I should have done more. Well, we have to accept these judgements and joyfully and sincerely move forward.
Declaration: “With courage and trust, I approach and befriend 10 Caucasian girls and have a photo with them before November 2, 2016.
The first one is a crew of Emirates air. She is from Hungary. Unfortunately, I’m very bad at names. I don’t know if Emirates instruct their flight crew to allow pictures and be courteous. Its a great start.
The second is our Arabic Christian host for the Bethlehem Tour. She speaks great english and studied University in Tel Aviv.
The third-sixth is a group of girls from the Netherlands. They are still undergraduates. I said hi to them in French which surprised me that they weren’t snobs. They were in fact Dutch. I still had to polish my hi, I have to remember to give my name and start small talk before asking for a photo with them. That’s because she said “I barely even know you”. At last they obliged.
The seventh is a Czech student from Prague. Faithful to her law major, she was reading and had come alone to visit Israel.
I didn’t reach 10. In life we have to look at reality and study how we can complete the tasks we said we would do. I valued looking at our bags from the airport than working a few Emirates girls. What is important is our values. What is important for me to do at this point? And negotiate with ourselves what things we want to accomplish.
How about you? What are your fears? What can you do to slowly overcome them?
I thought I didn’t reach 10. I was mistaken.
Conclusion on the Next Article : Joyfully Meeting Pretty Women in Israel