A Year of Courage
Today I turn one year on my Second Enlightenment experience.
My first was when someone cared enough to share about Jesus, and I accepted him as my Savior and Lord. From that time, my life never became the same. The Second one happened last year. It was a colorful experience of learning how to laugh, to feel and to really love. Before it, I was simply thinking to laugh, thinking to feel, thinking to love.
This morning, my journey brings me to seek more courage. After taking my morning 60x of pushups, I reflected that this habit is not getting to be burden and I can move to my next habit project.
As I pondered about my habits, I started to see how I was insulating myself from all of this beautiful experiences in my life.
Just because I am afraid.
To those who are reading for the first time, I am a NGSB. “No Girlfriend Since Birth” and for most of my life it is a point of embarrassment since I am closing to turn to my fourth decade in a few years. For the most part, this is due to my lack of courage, and in the local lingo “torpe”. And who knows? As my coach would say, “Ian in what areas in your life are you also like this?”
A few scrolls on my phone searching for articles on courage and habits acquainted me with Christine Kane’s blog. She explained that we equate courage with the end product – a confident person who takes risk, a guy who would approach anyone he wants. Other than this jump-on-a-cliff and we judge ourselves to be less than we truly are. We define ourselves as “not courageous”. Yet if we set our standards to high (the people mentioned are a result of years of building habits), then moving closer to real courage becomes impossible.
Christine mentions that there’s a deeper level of courage. I quote:
“It makes you stronger with each move you make. It makes you fall in love with yourself. It makes you fall in love with your life.
That’s because, at its core, courage is about strengthening your relationship with yourself.
In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” I encourage you to do many things you think you cannot do!”
The journey to courage takes time. It is a process. It is not the joy of finishing courage but a moving forward constantly, and sometimes even retreats, and the people you meet on your way. And strengthening relationship with yourself takes compassion. I don’t know with you but I’m in a relationship now, relationship with myself.
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