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The Super Villains of Ourselves

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sThe Super Villains of Ourselves

Imagine yourself as Superman, unstoppable, a son of Jor-el. Your dad, the brightest scientist in Krypton encased you in an alien ship and in part 1 you grew up to be powerful.

Then in part 2, 3 Kryptonians broke free from their prison and come to planet earth. They decide that their goal is to find the most painful ways to torture you and give you a hard time.

For many of us this is a real story except that in real life, the 3 super villains are invisible.

Superman Man of Steel

Superman Man of Steel

Enter the Game of Life
“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?” Isaiah 58:6

I thought this passage was really for slave owners and cruel bosses. It still is but after 200 years of human rights and labor laws, there are very few slaves, count with them child abuse, battered women and abused helpers in the middle east. The abuses today are minute compared to the slaves eaten by lions and burn alive in the old days.

I am so blessed to hear God speak about the injustice in my own life and the culprit is me. Most of the time we learn wrong habits that are unjust not before the human rights and labor laws but unjust compared to the love of God. And I thought this was a fair way of loving myself.

Super villains from planet krypton

Super villains from planet krypton

So who are these super villains that cause self injustice? Yes self injustice goes a long way and explains why people commit heinous acts, rape other people, murder and abuse. It all boils down to self injustice. The three super villains are Self-Hatred, Self-Blame and Self-Condemnation.

For healthy people these attacks feels shallow. When a person is taking responsibility for his life and is adjusting with life’s changes it is laughable. I even theorize that these are the very villains that threw World War II leader Adolf Hitler to murder 9 million Jews and oppress most of the world.

For nicer people these are also the cause of such fear and confusion that you have uncontrolled habits, unable to pursue what you want, feeling stuck and perhaps experience depression. It can also result in feelings of unworthiness at work and relationships.

If you feel that these villains are oppressing you,what can you do about them? I don’t claim to be an expert but the following exercises helped me.

Self Compassion vs Self Criticism

Self Compassion vs Self Criticism

How to Break Free from Self Injustice

1. Mindfulness Meditation/ Silence

“But Jesus kept silent And the high priest said to Him. . .” Mt 26:63
“And while He was being accused by the chief priests and elders, He did not answer.” Mt 27:12
“. . .But Jesus often withdrew to quiet places and prayed.” Lk 5:16; Mk 1:45

Our world trains us to answer back every accusation, sometimes with the word of God. Yet there are instances that Jesus himself remained calm and silent or sought silence. Not all accusations need to be answered. Some accusations are so petty in long term perspective that you become small when you respond to it.

I believe that faith keeps its silence so that we could focus on what God really wants us to respond to and not react on everything no matter how big we feel it is or how

On my experience, I have a habit of obsessively answering every question. Lately, I have seen that answering and complying when done in fear sabotages the promises God wants for me and executes the negative things that I do not want.

2. Laughter

“But the one who rules in heaven laughs. The Lord scoffs at them.” Ps. 2:4
“The wicked scheme against the righteous and gnash their teeth at them, 13but the Lord laughs, seeing that their day is coming.” Ps. 37:12-13

Yeah, you may say, of course God can laugh because He is omnipotent while we are limited and have to face challenges in our lives. In fact, God laughs, not so we can see him laugh but He is modelling how our faith should react to circumstance.

My first experience with this Holy Laughter (in grave danger) was when I thought I was cornered. My option was to do something as impossible as bring back the time, or else more judgement from work or myself.

Laughing aligns myself in the Spirit with God’s perspective and destroys the power of anxiety, stress and fear.

Yes. Anxiety and Stress is a spirit. The more we embrace it, its fruit manifests in our life: sickness, cancer and depression.

Fighting with the Lord

Fighting with the Lord

3. Worship / Honor God

“May the praise of God be in their mouths and a double-edged sword in their hands” Ps. 149:6

I have attended worship services to see that people need to be prodded to clap or praise before they do. The result, on many ways in their own life, they feel someone else has to fight for them on their battles.

This is not the intention of God. When you were born again, your package includes full armor and a dangerous set of arsenal so that you could win in your life. I’m not saying that I’m perfect in praise, but experienced that every time I honor God in praise during a problem, it takes my feet from the ground on earth to heaven where I really belong and the Lord fights for me, my problem feels smaller and God looks really bigger. The choice to decide how big really is, is not God’s decision but ours. Praise and Honor given to God doesn’t make God bigger, He already is.

Praise and Honor takes the power out of our seemingly worse situation and empowers us to see how big God is and how powerful He already gifted us through Jesus. It also puts a double sword in our hands. That only means one thing, we are not powerless in our life we are ready to face our problem.

4. Worship / Loved by God

“The Lord said to my Lord: “Sit at my right hand until I put your enemies under your feet.” Mt. 22:24

Love looks weak in the physical world that’s the reason why I despised it. But Love has its place on the throwns of the world. Place a king that is empty of love on the nation as prime minister, on a company as CEO, on a project as project manager and the results speak: the King becomes a tyrant, the CEO gives in to petty problems and the Manager tries to destroy the other people that feel threat to him.

A lack of love is the source of all wrong decisions of the top CEOs of the world. If they were loved a little more, many of the insecurities: fear, doubt, anger; that push them to wrong decisions would be avoided.

Spending time in the presence of God to receive God’s love is truly powerful! Some of the things that prevent us from receiving his love is the root of legalism. We want to pay God to receive his love. This will be the topic of a future article.

Spending time with God is not mushy mushy. In fact its intended result is security and clarity of your identity so that you do not need to react to petty request from people and are able to love and lead them back. A new identity frees you to be who God called you to be.

Breaking the Chains of Self-injustice

Breaking the Chains of Self-injustice

5. Fasting

“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?” Isaiah 58:6

Fasting is a retreat. It is an excuse to distance yourself between your life and your problems and listen to your heart and to what God is speaking in your life. Based on the above scripture I could see some elements : a) show kindness to those you are unfair to whether yourself or other people loose chains of injustice; b) rest from stress or work – untie the chords of the yoke, c) Help other people in their problem – Set the oppressed free.

I have attended worship services to see that people need to be prodded to clap or praise before they do. The result, on many ways in their own life, they feel someone else has to fight for them on their battles.

Finding Peace with God and Yourself

Finding Peace with God and Yourself

6. Rest

“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?” Isaiah 58:6

People who are obsessively workaholics will shutdown completely at the idea of leaving your workplace and not working for a few days. Fasting is also a kind of rest but I want to post Rest separately on this list because it is a solution to self-injustice.

One of the reason we are enslaved to our own work is fear. Fear of losing money, fear of our bosses who will replace us, fear of missing out on opportunities. The cycle goes again and again, and as long as fear is so strong to keep us paranoid, fasting is only a temporary solution. We need to learn to rest. Rest long enough to understand God’s love and to finally hear what he wants us to do.

In many cases, God wants us to move but we are paralyzed by so much fear, we are willing to bear the stress and the slavery than risk all the imagined monsters.

Self injustice can be a challenge in pursuing God’s purpose in our lives. Being aware of it keeps us from actions that result in hurting our loved ones, our work and our peace. It was once said, Love your neighbor (others) as you love yourself.

I pray that in your journey you be aware of your own self injustice, loosen it’s grip in your life, love ourselves and start becoming totally free.

Finding Rest in God

Finding Rest in God


Author: Archian

An Architect, Blogger and Strategic Thinker

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