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Dreams don’t come instantly, heres why

Dreams don’t come instantly. Here’s why.

It pays to let God. He’s never late.


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Arki Thesis blues: the Difference between Concept and Philosophy?

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Arki Thesis blues: the Difference between Concept and Philosophy?

During my student years, concepts and philosophy never got explained clearly. It’s one of those things you read from the Project brief and your kind of catch from comparing notes with what your best friend did in Architecture School.
Architecture Sketch - Design Concept -Frank Gehry Partners

Architecture Sketch – Design Concept -Frank Gehry Partners

One of the challenge during school was that in UST, it always rained. And the guys who top the board exams are simply brilliant, hard researching dudes with monster drawing skills. Back to Architecture – here’s the Question: What is a concept?

A design concept is a statement that expresses your approach to the design problem. The concept speaks to a specific problem/project but is still in line with your Design Philosophy. It creates a connection between the design problem and the design solution. The concept is consistent throughout the design itself. Your concept should relate

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The Alternative: Casual Christian Dating?

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Christian Dating confusion

Christian Dating confusion

Christian Casual Dating?

Why it’s Time to Simplify the puzzle of Christian Romance.

Credits to author Nicole Unice from

A wise man once said that there are only two outcomes for dating relationships: getting married or breaking up. “The secret,” he said, “is knowing how to handle a dating relationship so you know if the other person is worth marrying or he or she is honored in the breakup.”

Unfortunately, it seems like many young singles struggle to figure out just how to handle dating–and I’m not the only one who’s noticed how weird the Christian dating can be. Someone in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!” Continue reading

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Jerry and Deni: Loveys Forever

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Jerry and Deni: Loveys Forever



I’m sharing my toast for my brother’s wedding.

“The problem with sleepwalking through life is that life is too short. And life’s too fast. We can only love them today.

Being asked to be my brother’s best man is like waking from sleepwalking. This time I start to see my love is real. I’ve prepared this presentation as a journal of me and my family’s thoughts, joy, sadness and celebration for this event in his life.

JR, you were my roomate, my coolmusic resource, driver, wacky comedian, brother,  affectionate pasalubonger, travel guide, feedbacker, city dining gourmet, actor and oftentimes atoor thrift travel consultant and friend. Mom, dad, titas, titos, cousins and friends thank you for the gift of you.

Deni, we welcome you and your family. We celebrate with you two. We want to say that you are indeed a treasure – You, JR and Deni are the indeed best part of us. Cheers!

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Good and Bad Lessons I Learned from President Duterte

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Good and Bad Lessons I Learned from President Duterte

by Arch Ian Jay Bantilan

I have a confession to make. I was not a Duterte supporter. But the news kept getting interesting. In fact, it was amusing. On one crazy campaign trail, we heard about the pope, to being deprived of rape, to the violence of passionate rallies, I couldn’t help but think. This guy probably has something right going his way.

I have never seen Rodrigo Duterte smirk. His face always looked serious but the sly smug smile is undoubtedly fixed on his forehead in a “sincerely innocent” kind of way. Here’s my take on what I learned from the man.

Lessons from the Controversial President

Lessons from the Controversial President

Lesson 1: If you hear anything impossible, come up with something equally preposterous.

Once he was asked by media about something that was clearly going to mislead the public with his answer. His response?

Tall tales. He bragged on about the time he caught a few drug pushers and cooked them in oil, he also went out and killed a thousand criminals. Then he tried to skin them and eat them alive.


Lesson 2: Come in late but Fresh.

You have probably done it in school. You went in while your professor was midway into the lesson. Now, my friend the spotlight is on you!

The presidentiable started out late by choice. It was supposedly heard that “everyone” is urging him to run for president. Continue reading

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Lessons in Love

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Lessons in Relationships

Garden for romantic relationships

Garden for romantic relationships

Lessons that came late.
Serve her no matter what,
whether you win or not.

To win her heart,
you have to win her trust
because if your goal is to win her,
she could smell your goal.

I’m a late bloomer. I was good in school but never really good with romantic relationships. I was ok with people I didn’t quite fancy but for those who I do fancy, I never got to talk to them. They are in the “restricted list”. So I sought to find a mental way to make connections: analysis. In short, I never really got to talk to the ones I want to.

Through a dinner coffee last year, it dawned on me. Those whom I feel more qualified for, I take for granted but those I don’t feel qualified for, you never could stomach to ask. But this “The Heart Truth” series helped me out. (I wasn’t  really taking notes) Continue reading

Challenges and Mountains in life

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The Making of a Hero

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The Making of a Hero

Children Reading Books - not me.

Children Reading Books – not me.

I will admit a personal truth. It may be uncomfortable and awkward to share, but here it is:

“I had trouble starting to read at grade 2.” Ian B.

My difficulties in Reading

My difficulties in Reading

It’s not that I was dull, (now I am making excuses) it’s just that I didn’t stay long enough or thought long enough to completely, normally read. And I was happy there were 2 other guys who were grade 3! (now I am finding others to blame. 🙂 I remember that my mom had to enroll me to a reading class because I was “slow” to learn reading. Continue reading