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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers


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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

Most of my life it feels is about measuring up and being ahead of everyone else. The problem isn’t that I’m not brilliant but that its hard to be the most promising entrepreneur, the budding architect-designer and the successful man-in-relationship.

I just heard from a podcast that life just happens. Our best laid plans fire away. It is easy to be tough on yourself and beat yourself up for not succeeding this time.

As I take this long walk home at 12:30am, I discover that there is so much love along the way. This new home away from home. I have cared about things and achievements for far too long. I’ve passed this site where once stood a very frustrated, angry and lost man. I saw my first day of work and all the insecurities of trying to look good and manipulating people; the fear of missing out in my life. And the elusive “red haired girl” (the mythical bond queen in Caucasian circles). Hehehe. I could just laugh at how unfair I’ve been trying to put the highest standard when I was just simply, afraid.

Tonight as I pass this once mud and steel bones, now structures of pretty glass and teeming with landscape, I remember there was so much love all along: friends, funy memories and a thousand laughs. I was just busy.

Busy.

Too busy to smell the flowers and feel the wind. To laugh with friends abd to love them. To cherish my workmates, victory group, crushes. ❤. And just be there! Experience fulness of life.

I was crazy trying to be someone so other people could accept me more. 🙂 I have to be blind that only I am missing that I am overflowing. Feeling empty looking for myself out there with something to fill the void. Blind to see that I was full all along. Take time to smell the flowers. . .

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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation

A few weeks ago, I went out for some personal evaluation as the year 2017 comes to an end. After a few notes, I am suddenly aware that most of my effort is to maintain approval, seek validation of a group of people I’m not even close to. I was seeking validation.

our toughest critics

our toughest critics

What Obsessive Approval Seeking is like? Continue reading


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A Prayer of Thanksgiving


Then the word came again to me:

“Before I formed you in the womb, Ian, I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.”
Jer1:5

Ian, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.
Jer 31:3

Lord thank you that before I was born, you have set me apart. You know me when I was conceived in my mother’s womb. You breathed me life and set me out into the world.

Lord thank you that you have watched over my life through challenges and even dangers, you were keeping me for something special.

Lord thank you that you have been loving me for a thousand years. You prepared all my teachers, friends and mentors. And then I met you Jesus.

Thank you that through the ups and downs of my life your love has never waned. Thank you for inviting me into your family. Thank you for preparing a feast before me and dine in your presence.

Thank you Jesus. 


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A Year of Courage: OCCI LEAP 69


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A Year of Courage

Today I turn one year on my Second Enlightenment experience.

My first was when someone cared enough to share about Jesus, and I accepted him as my Savior and Lord. From that time, my life never became the same. The Second one happened last year. It was a colorful experience of learning how to laugh, to feel and to really love. Before it, I was simply thinking to laugh, thinking to feel, thinking to love.

The Enlightenment Journey - OCCI LEAP

The Enlightenment Journey – OCCI LEAP

This morning, my journey brings me to seek more courage. After taking my morning 60x of pushups, I reflected that this habit is not getting to be burden and I can move to my next habit project. Continue reading


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What Would I Do if you’d be given P100M (2M USD)?


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What Would I Do if you’d be given P100M (2M USD)?

630pm.


After a talk with my boss, I am off to the center to have our regular Group Meetings. I just came in time to answer a million dollar question. In fact 2 Million Dollars! The question was “What would you do if you’d be given P100M?”

Greed, money corrupts easily

Greed, money corrupts easily

I answered that 100M could be deadly. It could destroy you. Only a fear of God and key relationships could keep you in check. There’s just too much turbulence when you get to that altitude and that a fall is certain for majority of us. Come to think of it, as great as it is, this is the first time money this huge is suddenly thrust upon us.

After a long pause I give my answer.

For one, many people would have their answers and depending on your opinion they could say this one is better . . . So I thought what do I really want?

I answered “I would like to take the first 2 weeks on a solo journey of reflection.”

Solo traveler self-reflection

Solo traveler self-reflection

Then I’d come back to spend time with my family. Then I’d show them my plans to buy land in three islands:
1. Palawan (1500sq.m. along beachfront ) P8M for land and 12M for a Room rental Property.

Palawan Beachfront Resort Design Architecture Construction

Palawan Beachfront Resort Design Architecture Construction

Tropical Island Pool Area Resort Design

Tropical Island Pool Area Resort Design

Tropical Island Resort in Palawan

Tropical Island Resort in Palawan

2. Bohol (1 Hectare along river way) P10M for Land and 15M.

Cheap Bohol River Rental Houses and Rooms - design Architecture

Cheap Bohol River Rental Houses and Rooms – design Architecture

 

Treehouse Design Bohol - Architect Lodge Vacation Rental

Treehouse Design Bohol – Architect Lodge Vacation Rental

3. Guimaras (1 Hectare along elevated hill with view to the sea or on clifts shoreline) P12M for Land and 20M

Tropical Purple Houses in Guimaras Island - Design Architect
Vacation Stilt Houses in Guimaras - Philippines Beach Design

Vacation Stilt Houses in Guimaras – Philippines Beach Design

Well, I guess the rest would be used for paying employees for reception and butlers etc. 🙂

I still think the question was not written on the Group discussion material. But for a few moments I started to dream. How would life feel like if I were limitless? What dreams would I pursue. The truth is, I have one life to live. And these dreams are not far from impossible. Do you know that God has given you everything you need so you can succeed? Take note of that feeling when you dream because you will need to remember that when challenging times come to test your character.

And so the rest of the group answered. One wanted to buy stocks, another wanted 4 chicks and a mansion, another will buy nuclear warheads and target the ISIS. Still another said he would buy roses and share world peace for all mankind.

Ikaw, how would you spend if you were given that money?

And what dreams are you throwing away? Is it possible that you’d for once start believing its possible?

Because it is!

If you have plans to build a Resort, a Rental House, why don’t you ask for it? If you have land waiting to be developed? Next step is to find a partner a designer or architect that will translate these dreams to reality. For more information, contact Arch Ian Jay Bantilan.


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How I found my Way to Meditation


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The “Evil” of Meditation

I was not a believer of Meditation. I am a Christian. And there is a reason I avoid it.

It started out as a short conversation on philosophy and a short counsel from a well meaning sister in Church: “You should avoid transcendental meditation and eastern meditation.” Those words resounded with me. I also read them (the 2 meditation above) on the list of things that can get you into demon possession (which include in the list: participating in religious rituals, premarital sex and spirit of the glass/board). God is angered when we honor other gods before him. Connect that to scripture that says that “when demons leave and come back, they invite 10 more with them”. So I decided it is altogether fine to avoid all forms of meditation, the same way I decided long ago not to go through the fuss of having a girlfriend?!?

Buddhist Mindfulness Meditation

Buddhist Mindfulness Meditation

The Blame and Guilt.

I was doing great at work but I was struggling to make life work. I was hard to please and didn’t get satisfied no matter how beautiful the place, the gifts, the experience. I was having lots of guilt. I am angry deep inside but yearn to look good and positive as a Christian. I was measuring life to its ideal and the emotional baggage got heavy. Well, there’s no other person who could be cruel than you.

To yourself.

Can you imagine going to worships where everyone’s rolling over laughing in the Spirit for an hour. I got about 10 guys got demons cast out from them, including homosexuals vomiting all kinds of green colored fluid for physical manifestation. But why wasn’t any demon cast out of me? But I knew there was something there. And getting religiously mystical made it worse. It spooked a lot of devil-hunting and paranoia. So I decided I was just crazy. . . but again. . . .

I blame myself for things I was not. For not being good enough. For not giving enough. For not evangelizing enough. For not praying. And every person was a competition.

Anger and Guilt

Anger and Guilt

I got desperate.

If this is what life is, something is fundamentally wrong. It is not enough to go to a few worship meetings and read the bible more to get the change I want. I believe I needed a paradigm shift that would totally change my perspective in life. And so I listen hard to what God is speaking.

Guilt and condemnation

Guilt and condemnation

Applying Self Compassion

Applying Self Compassion

The Tunnel with the Light.

Of all coincidence, the tunnel had to be challenging. That tunnel is a coaching community, but in a twist of faith, its an exercise of humility to learn from people, most of them, themselves homosexuals. But the need to find my answers was deeper than my homo-phobia. I remember the scene in Kungfu Panda where the panda opens the magic scroll.

Finally.

And see

It is empty.

It was there I learned what I knew all the time. The answer to life’s difficult problems is simple: Listening to myself breathing.

Slow down. Take the time to rest. Feel sadness happiness, calm. To smell the roses.

To love. To live.

Ian Jay Bantilan at the Dome of the Rock, Israel

Ian Jay Bantilan at the Dome of the Rock, Israel

Clarification:

I am not saying that all non-Christian meditation is ok or do not have spiritual connection. There are meditations that can give you a doorway to demon possession. But I know that my Father knows what you need before I ask Him. And it is this trust, though in my weak way, finally led me to find help that I need.

Thank you God for the simplicity of slowing down. Less of fear, anger, guilt and shame. Live life for real.

Thank you also for those who seek and found what they were looking for in their journey through LEAP69. 🙂 🙂


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The Global Outsourcing Cities List: Manila, Cebu, Davao, Iloilo


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Looking at the development here in Iloilo City, it is clear where the investment is pouring in. Based on Megaworld’s latest master plan for Iloilo Business Park, the Commercial Business District in Iloilo and in the region, It is boasting of 15 lots allocated for Business Process outsourcing. And how sound can it be? Where should money come pouring in to Festive Malls new line of shops but payments teleported from greasy cash from the first world centers: London, New York, Australia and Canada. They will set up shop and fund a new breed of yuppies into kingdom come.

IloIlo Business Park -Master Plan Development

Iloilo Business Park -Master Plan Development

Even the news of Trumps rant at American jobs being exported to third world nations did not stop the big developers as news of SM, yes, the Retailing Giant is getting in on the cash with its 19 storey BPO along Diversion road.

Davao IT Park - Matina

Davao IT Park – Matina

The Global Outsourcing Cities

Let us look at how outsourcing grew around the world. Taipei, Perth and Davao City were the biggest movers in Asia Pacific region. Taipei moved 3 places up from 73th to 70th while Perth and Davao now ranked 75th and 66th in the list, respectively. Being one of the Philippines next wave cities, Davao City, is growing to be one of the destinations outside Metro Manila. Davao City, the largest City by land area, does not concern with saturation issues of Metro Manila, having enough space to expand around the city. Other advantages that highlight Davao are its geographic advantages (i.e. almost devoid of flooding, earthquakes, and other natural calamities). Davao City is boosted by the development of IT infrastructure such as the recently completed Matina IT Park. Large BPO providers such as Convergys and Teleperformance are already in Davao City.

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