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The Road to Healthy Boundaries


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The Road to Healthy Boundaries

Relaxing because you have Healthy Boundaries

Relaxing because you have Healthy Boundaries

Let me start with a self revelation. Exactly a decade back, there was a girl who I started to like and get drawn to. I started to show my intentions and her first question exploded like a nuclear bomb on the Pacific ocean, creating tremors in my life and shook the very foundations of my bones and my life (Si Jesuuus di ba?) I said I wanted to be more than friends with you. She asked me “What did you hear from God?” Boom! Continue reading

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Vision Feb 07 2018


Father is holding his Son

Father is holding his Son

Father is holding his Son
Father is holding his Son

Then He transported me into the heavenly realms. I filled my heart with worship and gave it to Him. He said “You don’t have to”.

I said “I want to.”

He answered “You don’t have to.”

I replied “I want to worship you Lord.”

The He said “You don’t have to perform.”

Then he showed me my dad. I am the one who placed him in your life.” Immediately I saw different situations where I resented my dad. Then he spoke “He loved you only the best way he knows how. He is broken too.”

“He wants to give you his best and loved you the only way he can.”

“You are missing me Ian. Read my word? ‘For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness.’ ”

“When you look to other people you will be disappointed Ian. As good as they are, I created them imperfect. And you feel I’m failing you. They are only a . . . to finally point to me.

And I saw so much love in His eyes I wonder why I haven’t seen that before. Then He took two hands and knelt down. (I was brought back to become like a little child)

Father and Son

Father and Son

“Ian, listen to me.” He said.

“Listen to me. I am your Father. Eyes on me, Ian.” He hold both my shoulders with both hands and looked straight to my eyes. Again He said “Set your eyes on me. I will never fail you. My love for you will never fail.”.


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Fruits of Fasting 2018 Part 1


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Fruits of Fasting 2018 Part 1

I had started this fast full of doubt and so much unsure. In my world, I feel like I’m aging and not making progress the way I want to. For those friends who have subscribed to my blog I want to thank you for being with me all this time in my journey. I wish I could personally take the time to hug you and hold your hand and tell you thank you for supporting me through journey.

Tropical Fruits of Fasting

Tropical Fruits of Fasting

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10 Things I learned from Drei: What a Future Dad Wants to Know


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10 Things I learned from Drei: What a Future Dad Wants to Know

Would you believe that in high school, I only wanted to marry a girl but never want to have children?

Yes.

Younger Carefree Me

Younger Carefree Me – cant find any hilarious me pic. Sorry Ghe, haha!

I dread having to wash soiled laundry, wake at every hour in the morning, keep all 2 hands occupied (not being able to defend myself for any ninja or terrorist attack) and eat half-consumed food – a simple glimpse of a sanitized, single and carefree me. But as I grew older, I matured and learned to see differently.

I yearn to be a dad.

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Live Die Repeat: What to do when you’re Stuck


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Live Die Repeat: Courage to Move Forward

 

I was looking to re-watch the films that made an impression on me this year. I could remember that “Edge of Tomorrow” was one of them. The films stars Tom Cruise and the beautiful Emily Blunt. The story is about an alien invasion of earth. Continue reading


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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers


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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

Most of my life it feels is about measuring up and being ahead of everyone else. The problem isn’t that I’m not brilliant but that its hard to be the most promising entrepreneur, the budding architect-designer and the successful man-in-relationship.

I just heard from a podcast that life just happens. Our best laid plans fire away. It is easy to be tough on yourself and beat yourself up for not succeeding this time.

As I take this long walk home at 12:30am, I discover that there is so much love along the way. This new home away from home. I have cared about things and achievements for far too long. I’ve passed this site where once stood a very frustrated, angry and lost man. I saw my first day of work and all the insecurities of trying to look good and Continue reading


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation

A few weeks ago, I went out for some personal evaluation as the year 2017 comes to an end. After a few notes, I am suddenly aware that most of my effort is to maintain approval, seek validation of a group of people I’m not even close to. I was seeking validation.

our toughest critics

our toughest critics

What Obsessive Approval Seeking is like? Continue reading