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33 Nuggets of Wisdom for Wives, Future Wives and Moms


When I was in college I was a hopeless romantic, clueless in real relationships. After countless religious youth meetings and fired up motivational speeches in finding the ideal woman, I finally put down my non-negotiables in an ideal lady-to-marry.

Here’s the final four:

A. Raised like a queen (confident)
B. Motherly (personifies kindness and compassion)
C. Passionate about Jesus
D. Intelligent

Fast forward to 10 years, working and eternally single, a lot has changed in my expectations. (Most to blame is all the Disney movies that mess up my expectations) 🙂 Hehe! Continue reading

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The Blessing of Family and Pets


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The Blessing of Family and Pets

Last Sunday, I met our fun loving new American bulldog Buddee. He was very charming. I heard from my brother that we just got him that morning. He was a very spirited dog, an overexcited little mutt.  As I walked him around the lawn, his hurried sniffing antics and careless running about hit me. Suddenly I was endeared to him.

(Sorry Ill have a proper picture next time. Guardian of the Bantilan estate, Buddee G. Bantilan. Continue reading


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Understanding Lawbreakers, Delinquents, Hurting and Violently Aggressive People


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Understanding Lawbreakers, Delinquents, Hurting and Violently Aggressive People

Criminal Gangs in illegal activity

Criminal Gangs in illegal activity

Working with my leaders in ministry, allowed me to be exposed to a gamut of many different people. Some of them may be fine and a lot of them are struggling and needing tons of help. Some have been raped or molested, others experience being left by their parents or physically and emotionally abused. Continue reading


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How I found my Way to Meditation


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The “Evil” of Meditation

I was not a believer of Meditation. I am a Christian. And there is a reason I avoid it.

It started out as a short conversation on philosophy and a short counsel from a well meaning sister in Church: “You should avoid transcendental meditation and eastern meditation.” Those words resounded with me. I also read them (the 2 meditation above) on the list of things that can get you into demon possession (which include in the list: participating in religious rituals, premarital sex and spirit of the glass/board). God is angered when we honor other gods before him. Connect that to scripture that says that “when demons leave and come back, they invite 10 more with them”. So I decided it is altogether fine to avoid all forms of meditation, the same way I decided long ago not to go through the fuss of having a girlfriend?!?

Buddhist Mindfulness Meditation

Buddhist Mindfulness Meditation

The Blame and Guilt.

I was doing great at work but I was struggling to make life work. I was hard to please and didn’t get satisfied no matter how beautiful the place, the gifts, the experience. I was having lots of guilt. I am angry deep inside but yearn to look good and positive as a Christian. I was measuring life to its ideal and the emotional baggage got heavy. Well, there’s no other person who could be cruel than you.

To yourself.

Can you imagine going to worships where everyone’s rolling over laughing in the Spirit for an hour. I got about 10 guys got demons cast out from them, including homosexuals vomiting all kinds of green colored fluid for physical manifestation. But why wasn’t any demon cast out of me? But I knew there was something there. And getting religiously mystical made it worse. It spooked a lot of devil-hunting and paranoia. So I decided I was just crazy. . . but again. . . .

I blame myself for things I was not. For not being good enough. For not giving enough. For not evangelizing enough. For not praying. And every person was a competition.

Anger and Guilt

Anger and Guilt

I got desperate.

If this is what life is, something is fundamentally wrong. It is not enough to go to a few worship meetings and read the bible more to get the change I want. I believe I needed a paradigm shift that would totally change my perspective in life. And so I listen hard to what God is speaking.

Guilt and condemnation

Guilt and condemnation

Applying Self Compassion

Applying Self Compassion

The Tunnel with the Light.

Of all coincidence, the tunnel had to be challenging. That tunnel is a coaching community, but in a twist of faith, its an exercise of humility to learn from people, most of them, themselves homosexuals. But the need to find my answers was deeper than my homo-phobia. I remember the scene in Kungfu Panda where the panda opens the magic scroll.

Finally.

And see

It is empty.

It was there I learned what I knew all the time. The answer to life’s difficult problems is simple: Listening to myself breathing.

Slow down. Take the time to rest. Feel sadness happiness, calm. To smell the roses.

To love. To live.

Ian Jay Bantilan at the Dome of the Rock, Israel

Ian Jay Bantilan at the Dome of the Rock, Israel

Clarification:

I am not saying that all non-Christian meditation is ok or do not have spiritual connection. There are meditations that can give you a doorway to demon possession. But I know that my Father knows what you need before I ask Him. And it is this trust, though in my weak way, finally led me to find help that I need.

Thank you God for the simplicity of slowing down. Less of fear, anger, guilt and shame. Live life for real.

Thank you also for those who seek and found what they were looking for in their journey through LEAP69. 🙂 🙂


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The Jordan: Crossing the Promised Land

Filipinos are a breed of sentimental people. They seldom like goodbyes. But there was one goodbye from this place a thousand years ago that was equally heavy emotionally: Moses who has fought and prayed and fasted to reach the Promise Land is a few kilometers of his goal but God says, this is as far as you can go. From the thick air which blurs out the whole valley, we could see miles and miles of endless sand, glimmering in the morning sun while cool breeze blow through my face.

This is Mount Nebo in Jordan.

How we ended there? is a long story. This how its happened.

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We set out our journey in the Philippines, excited for a long adventure. We made a rendezvous in the City of Gold – Dubai en route to Jordan. Not the man who flies but the place with men of thick beard and accent. In its capital is a strange sight you will find it mysterious.

The Airport of Amman is a striking contrast to Dubai’s. While Dubai gave its tune of modern architecture (I am sorry guys, I’m an architect by profession and a teacher once before) by using chrome and metal at every oppurtunity, Amman’s Airport exuded truthfulness. The light colors matched the structure to its sandy landscape. It’s walls were textured concrete, unadorned. And yet, the arches and curves gave the superstructure its distinct identity. In the interior, you will find Islamic resonance with geometric forms softened by curves on the triangular corners.

We were here. It is quite interesting how we cam through faster than their locals, as they were thouroughly checked for contraband material. Was it the charm of our Jordanian host or as most will think, there could be a real threat of attacks from their population?

From the capital, we rode the bus that took us around the countryside. Not much surprise, the only plants growing were olives and, if properly watered: bananas. The popular sport in the area is growing sheep and goats, also known as herding. . .

We climbed through the mountainside onto this early christian church which was built to commemorate where the Israelites would have stayed. At this time of year, it wasn’t this hot, but surely during summer, it would have been hard to feed a million angry shouting Israelites clamoring for fine cheese and shawarma from Egypt.

The early Christian Church was adorned with mosaic, the early expression of architecture details of their time. Mosaics are an artwork composted of inter laying materials such as stone or pottery of different shades to create an overall painting when viewed as a whole. The whole ancient structure was well preserved, considering that it is now 1,400 years old! Another factor for its preservation is the dry and cool climate, which you can see the stones still have a light earth color.

Outside the church, there was a newly installed pole. They say this was supposedly where Moses placed a staff with a snake sculpture, the emblem that stuck through the ages for doctors. It represented healing for those in the medicine profession. This can be seen on my solo picture.

We arrived to this isolated mountain area where it was rumored that Moses shed a tear over the place where he would be able to behold the promise land but never set foot on it. It could have been gruelling to spend out most of your life building and taking care to 1 million people only to find out you wouldn’t be there to enjoy success.

There will be seasons in our life where we feel we deserved what we work for and yet our dreams are not yet within reach. There have been seasons of my life where I felt I deserve better. And yet the more I struggled, the farther away I stray from my dream.

Life is a reflection of ourselves. How much we give her is how much she would also give back. In the end, our ability to trust God in any season of our life and rest in His hands, will prove to be the best oppurtunity for God’s provision. Impatience and anger is a reflection of our rawness and that our harvest is not yet ripe.

See you when we get to Galilee!


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Comfort Zone Challenge – Meeting in Israel – Completion Episode


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Comfort Zone Challenge – Joyfully Meeting Israel

Completion Episode

Surprise! I am back with a vengeance. They say “it doesn’t matter how small the gate or charge with judgement the scroll, I am the captain of my fate.”

1000 year old mosaic of a Christian Church in Nebo in Jordan

Arch Ian Jay in front of a 1000 year old mosaic of a Christian Church in Nebo in Jordan

I am delighted to find that I have actually completed my adventure in Israel to meet 10 pretty non-filipino women and have a picture with them. For others this may not be significant but the lessons in life is most significant to the learner, not the audience. I am sharing this to share my joy of completion. If you haven’t read the previous post Joyfully Meeting Girls in Israel part 1.

Enter Comfort Zone Challenge

Again what is a Comfort Zone challenge? Comfort Zone challenges are planned actions to face a fear with the primary goal of overcoming this fear or increasing your courage and confidence. This action includes a calculated risk of negative social evaluation but does not expose you to real danger or long-term negative consequences.”

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Cultivating a Habit of Gratefulness


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Cultivating a Habit of Gratefulness

There is one powerful emotion that brings the best out of life.

It keeps sickness away.

It breaks heaviness and depression.

It attracts friendship.

It makes us feel more alive.

Gratefulness in the Heart

Gratefulness in the Heart

According to Dr. McCullough of the New York Times, a University of Miami researcher, feelings of gratitude benefit more than just oneself. “More than any other emotion, gratitude is the emotion of friendship. It is part of a psychological system that causes people to raise their estimates of how much value they hold in the eyes of another person.

After taking my Personality DISC Profile, I saw that I am a C. DISC stands for the four major categories people into four different behavioral traits: dominance, inducement, submission, and compliance. C stands for Compliance which in other reword for the same profile is called “Conscientious”. C’s are more concerned with data and accuracy to the point of leaving people behind. This also leads them to be more analytical.

Seeing that my DISC Profile is C, it has been a constant struggle to create a habit of Gratefulness. Being prone to criticizing and analytical, I was clueless why other people have it easier to be thankful. The good news is that gratefulness is a muscle that can be strengthened through habit. Through constant practice we can strengthen this muscle. Here are some habits that could help you cultivate gratitude.

Blessings of Friends

1. Journal your Blessings Daily. Continue reading