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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

Most of my life it feels is about measuring up and being ahead of everyone else. The problem isn’t that I’m not brilliant but that its hard to be the most promising entrepreneur, the budding architect-designer and the successful man-in-relationship.

I just heard from a podcast that life just happens. Our best laid plans fire away. It is easy to be tough on yourself and beat yourself up for not succeeding this time.

As I take this long walk home at 12:30am, I discover that there is so much love along the way. This new home away from home. I have cared about things and achievements for far too long. I’ve passed this site where once stood a very frustrated, angry and lost man. I saw my first day of work and all the insecurities of trying to look good and manipulating people; the fear of missing out in my life. And the elusive “red haired girl” (the mythical bond queen in Caucasian circles). Hehehe. I could just laugh at how unfair I’ve been trying to put the highest standard when I was just simply, afraid.

Tonight as I pass this once mud and steel bones, now structures of pretty glass and teeming with landscape, I remember there was so much love all along: friends, funy memories and a thousand laughs. I was just busy.


Too busy to smell the flowers and feel the wind. To laugh with friends abd to love them. To cherish my workmates, victory group, crushes. ❤. And just be there! Experience fulness of life.

I was crazy trying to be someone so other people could accept me more. 🙂 I have to be blind that only I am missing that I am overflowing. Feeling empty looking for myself out there with something to fill the void. Blind to see that I was full all along. Take time to smell the flowers. . .


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation

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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation

A few weeks ago, I went out for some personal evaluation as the year 2017 comes to an end. After a few notes, I am suddenly aware that most of my effort is to maintain approval, seek validation of a group of people I’m not even close to. I was seeking validation.

our toughest critics

our toughest critics

What Obsessive Approval Seeking is like? Continue reading

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A Prayer of Thanksgiving

Then the word came again to me:

“Before I formed you in the womb, Ian, I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations.”

Ian, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.
Jer 31:3

Lord thank you that before I was born, you have set me apart. You know me when I was conceived in my mother’s womb. You breathed me life and set me out into the world.

Lord thank you that you have watched over my life through challenges and even dangers, you were keeping me for something special.

Lord thank you that you have been loving me for a thousand years. You prepared all my teachers, friends and mentors. And then I met you Jesus.

Thank you that through the ups and downs of my life your love has never waned. Thank you for inviting me into your family. Thank you for preparing a feast before me and dine in your presence.

Thank you Jesus. 

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A Year of Courage: OCCI LEAP 69

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A Year of Courage

Today I turn one year on my Second Enlightenment experience.

My first was when someone cared enough to share about Jesus, and I accepted him as my Savior and Lord. From that time, my life never became the same. The Second one happened last year. It was a colorful experience of learning how to laugh, to feel and to really love. Before it, I was simply thinking to laugh, thinking to feel, thinking to love.

The Enlightenment Journey - OCCI LEAP

The Enlightenment Journey – OCCI LEAP

This morning, my journey brings me to seek more courage. After taking my morning 60x of pushups, I reflected that this habit is not getting to be burden and I can move to my next habit project. Continue reading

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33 Nuggets of Wisdom for Wives, Future Wives and Moms

When I was in college I was a hopeless romantic, clueless in real relationships. After countless religious youth meetings and fired up motivational speeches in finding the ideal woman, I finally put down my non-negotiables in an ideal lady-to-marry.

Here’s the final four:

A. Raised like a queen (confident)
B. Motherly (personifies kindness and compassion)
C. Passionate about Jesus
D. Intelligent

Fast forward to 10 years, working and eternally single, a lot has changed in my expectations. (Most to blame is all the Disney movies that mess up my expectations) 🙂 Hehe! Continue reading

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The Blessing of Family and Pets

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The Blessing of Family and Pets

Last Sunday, I met our fun loving new American bulldog Buddee. He was very charming. I heard from my brother that we just got him that morning. He was a very spirited dog, an overexcited little mutt.  As I walked him around the lawn, his hurried sniffing antics and careless running about hit me. Suddenly I was endeared to him.

(Sorry Ill have a proper picture next time. Guardian of the Bantilan estate, Buddee G. Bantilan. Continue reading

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Understanding Lawbreakers, Delinquents, Hurting and Violently Aggressive People

Archian - Life, Bacolod, Architecture, Finances & Dubai

Understanding Lawbreakers, Delinquents, Hurting and Violently Aggressive People

Criminal Gangs in illegal activity

Criminal Gangs in illegal activity

Working with my leaders in ministry, allowed me to be exposed to a gamut of many different people. Some of them may be fine and a lot of them are struggling and needing tons of help. Some have been raped or molested, others experience being left by their parents or physically and emotionally abused. Continue reading