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Happy Valentines! 2009 MTV One and Only You


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Happy Valentines! 10 Years Since

It’s Valentine’s Day!

After much thought and anticipation, I would like to post a video I made back in 2009. The video might look amateur but its my best effort back then.

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

10 Years Ago
Imagine yourself 10 years ago. Could you think back on your understanding of love? Ten years ago, I didn’t know a lot about love, but I thought I did. At this time I believed:

  1. Being right was more important than loving other people.
  2. I did not know how to receive love.
  3. Romance was transactional and more about getting.
  4. I have polarized black and white/ good or bad thinking
  5. Caring (in hindsight) looked like for others to see.

But because I was an ok, working in one of the richest cities in the world in an architect job, not only did these not matter. I wasn’t aware I had them. Continue reading


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Your Guide to Visiting Dubai on Tight Budget – Travel Preparations


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Dubai Chronicles: Your Guide to Visiting Dubai on a Tight Budget – Travel Preparations

The Dubai Chronicles

A journey never begins until you take the first step. These are the basic steps.

Dubai Creek at Night

Dubai Creek at Night

Documents:

  1. Passport – check expiry
  2. Visa ( This can be paid for but can be provided by your relative in Dubai)

You can find visa from https://www.facebook.com/mcfabia

  1. Good Reason to come back to the Philippines

Any traveler going to Dubai will be considered by the Philippine Government as a potential expense as many Filipinos plan to find work and get deported by the Philippine government. As great as the OFW’s are to the economy, they are not paying a penny for their government to send them home. It’s the taxpayers back home paying for their repatriation.

 

Dubai Airport Passengers

Dubai Airport Passengers

  1. Petition Letter

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The Path to Freedom is Love


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Life Begins Here

For many times in my life, I don’t want to go through the process. I just want the results. I want the intimacy, not the spending time. I want the faith, I don’t want the desperation. I want healthy boundaries; I don’t want the mistakes to find it. I want the hope, not the falling and standing up. I want the girl, not the challenge. Well, life is about taking the journey to get to your destination. 😀

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

For some reason the journey gets heavier because of “culture” and “Christian tradition”. At other times, we put it on ourselves. I am a perfectionist, and though I talk about the Grace and Love of God, in practice I am blind and continue to work for God to accept me. There are some practices that hurt our journey by putting heavy rocks onto our already heavy load. Then we burden Continue reading


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Some Messages to Pepper the Girl on Valentine’s


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Some Messages to Pepper the Girl on Valentine’s

At this 3rd decade, I’m still learning to get dates. I’ve learned to appreciate my seasons. Here’s a few messages to give the girl on your mind on this month of love.

Romantic Attraction Quotes and Pickup Lines

Romantic Attraction Quotes and Pickup Lines

  1. You were amazing last night. Imagine what it would be like if it wasn’t just in my dreams.
  2. I really like our friendship but do you want to make it more?
  3. Can I see what’s in your pockets; I think you’ve stolen my heart.
  4. You’re already on my mind and I’ve just woken up.
  5. Do you have a to-do list? If yes, put me on it.
  6. Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
  7. I’m a bit like a Rubik’s cube, I get harder the more you play with me.
  8. I understand you don’t want any more children, but is there any change we could practice tonight?
  9. The best thing about a keyboard is that U and I are together.
  10. Don’t tire yourself out at work. You’ll need some energy for later.
  11. At night time I sleep dreaming of you, and in the daytime I dream sleeping with you.
  12. I’m trying my best to fall asleep, but I just can’t stop thinking about you.
  13. You looked so beautiful the last time I saw you I forgot my pickup line.
  14. Every time you enter the room, you enter my heart.
  15. Send me a picture, so I can give Santa my wish list.
  16. Here’s hoping your day consist of . . . . and the quickest route to bring you straight into my arms.
  17. On a beautiful day like this, the only thing that could improve is having you by my side.
  18. A hundred miles away and you’re still right here in my heart.
  19. I wish I was your mirror so that I could look at you every morning.
  20. You’re so hot I get a tan every time I look at you.
  21. Sweet dreams. I hope I was in them. 😉
  22. Don’t listen to your friends, listen to your heart!!
  23. The next time you see your parents, send them my sincerest gratitude.
  24. Can you send me a picture; my friends don’t believe that angels exist.
  25. God created the world in six days, rested on the 7th but it took Him thousands of years to produce someone as beautiful as you.
  26. This email is a group message to 10/10 girls in the area. Currently you are the only recipient.
  27. I’m tired at work because I’m a perfectionist in most things I do. That’s why I like you so much.
  28. You look a lot like my next girlfriend!
  29. Do you know any good heart doctor, because my heart skips a beat looking in your eyes.
  30. Of all the stars in the sky, there is not as beautiful as you.

Warning: Don’t try this on strangers. The author holds no responsibility if any slaps are given or police called when you try this on strangers. 🙂


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation

A few weeks ago, I went out for some personal evaluation as the year 2017 comes to an end. After a few notes, I am suddenly aware that most of my effort is to maintain approval, seek validation of a group of people I’m not even close to. I was seeking validation.

our toughest critics

our toughest critics

What Obsessive Approval Seeking is like? Continue reading