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The Alternative: Casual Christian Dating?


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Christian Dating confusion

Christian Dating confusion

Christian Casual Dating?

Why it’s Time to Simplify the puzzle of Christian Romance.

Credits to author Nicole Unice from http://www.relevantmagazine.com

A wise man once said that there are only two outcomes for dating relationships: getting married or breaking up. “The secret,” he said, “is knowing how to handle a dating relationship so you know if the other person is worth marrying or he or she is honored in the breakup.”

Unfortunately, it seems like many young singles struggle to figure out just how to handle dating–and I’m not the only one who’s noticed how weird the Christian dating can be. Someone in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!” Continue reading


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Good and Bad Lessons I Learned from President Duterte


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Good and Bad Lessons I Learned from President Duterte

by Arch Ian Jay Bantilan

I have a confession to make. I was not a Duterte supporter. But the news kept getting interesting. In fact, it was amusing. On one crazy campaign trail, we heard about the pope, to being deprived of rape, to the violence of passionate rallies, I couldn’t help but think. This guy probably has something right going his way.

I have never seen Rodrigo Duterte smirk. His face always looked serious but the sly smug smile is undoubtedly fixed on his forehead in a “sincerely innocent” kind of way. Here’s my take on what I learned from the man.

Lessons from the Controversial President

Lessons from the Controversial President

Lesson 1: If you hear anything impossible, come up with something equally preposterous.

Once he was asked by media about something that was clearly going to mislead the public with his answer. His response?

Tall tales. He bragged on about the time he caught a few drug pushers and cooked them in oil, he also went out and killed a thousand criminals. Then he tried to skin them and eat them alive.

 

Lesson 2: Come in late but Fresh.

You have probably done it in school. You went in while your professor was midway into the lesson. Now, my friend the spotlight is on you!

The presidentiable started out late by choice. It was supposedly heard that “everyone” is urging him to run for president. Continue reading


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Lessons in Love


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Lessons in Relationships

Garden for romantic relationships

Garden for romantic relationships

Lessons that came late.
Serve her no matter what,
whether you win or not.

To win her heart,
you have to win her trust
because if your goal is to win her,
she could smell your goal.

I’m a late bloomer. I was good in school but never really good with romantic relationships. I was ok with people I didn’t quite fancy but for those who I do fancy, I never got to talk to them. They are in the “restricted list”. So I sought to find a mental way to make connections: analysis. In short, I never really got to talk to the ones I want to.

Through a dinner coffee last year, it dawned on me. Those whom I feel more qualified for, I take for granted but those I don’t feel qualified for, you never could stomach to ask. But this “The Heart Truth” series helped me out. (I wasn’t  really taking notes) Continue reading


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Poetry: Once in a Life


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Once in a Life

By: Ian Jay Bantilan
Written July 15, 2014

La Bella Pricepessa - Bantilan Style

La Bella Pricepessa – Bantilan Style

With a quiet gaze you move me
Your simple prodding they turn
My Strong resolve like a dummy
How long before my mind burn?

Some of the prettiest creatures dent
Their wiles and crafty measures sent
Yet their plans do not make me bend
My love-immune systems stand. Continue reading

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Quest for Love: Christian True Stories 2


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This is the conclusion article. Read the first part “God Knows How to Tame Wild Stallions”

“God Knows How to Tame Wild Stallions”

Wild Horse Stallion

Wild Horse Stallion

 

That question too had its divine answer. Fred Malir was an Uruguayan citizen living in a poor country. He had no money for frills or extras, but three gifts were given him, totalling $162, the equivalent of 10 months’s salary for a national missionary. What to do with this small fortune? Buy a passage and marry Ann was the answer. But he could find no fare under $400 by either sea or air, Continue reading

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Quest for Love: Christian True Stories 1


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I can’t sleep again tonight. For all the reasons. . . .

This story is taken from the Book Quest for Love. I will be sharing this story about a Christian Couple that inspired me to trust God and hopefully, you too. If you liked this please share, and thank God I couldn’t sleep tonight. 🙂

“God Knows How to Tame Wild Stallions”

The Lord will guide you always;
He will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land
and will strengthen your frame.

Isaiah 58:11

Wild Horse Stallion

Wild Horse Stallion

Before Fred Malir became a Christian, he was already engaged – to a Christian. She took him to hear the gospel and his conversion was followed by a call to missionary work. Here was a whole new direction, not one in which his fiancee was prepared to participate. “I don’t want to be the wife of a missionary,” she said, and that was that.

“A civil war began in my heart that lasted six months,” wrote Fred. He lost his joy in the Lord. He felt he could not possibly give up the girl, and the thought of her marrying someone else drove him crazy – but, as he later learned, “God knows how to tame wild Stallions.

Patiently He began to soften Fred’s Heart as he prayed to be made willing to relinquish his beloved. Continue reading


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39 Lessons to be the Man You Want to Be


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39 Lessons to be the Man You Want to Be

Here’s a repost from my brother Jerry. Thanks. These are some timeless quote might sound simple, but their value is priceless!

The original list, is in the image below, credits to http://www.tickld.com/x/45-man-tips. I had to change around some of the quote and putting in some of mine.

I hope this list inspires you to be a better man! 🙂

1. Go for the Women you Perceive to be “out of your league.” You’ll surpries yourself.

2. Never have sex with anyone that doesn’t want it as much as you.

3. Never hit anyone unless they are an immediate threat.

4. Faint Heart never won fair lady. Now faint mind never won great money!

5. Never take her to the movies on the first date.

6. Nothing looks more badass than a well tailored suit!

7. Always look a person in the eye when you talk to them.

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