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Happy Valentines! 2009 MTV One and Only You


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Happy Valentines! 10 Years Since

It’s Valentine’s Day!

After much thought and anticipation, I would like to post a video I made back in 2009. The video might look amateur but its my best effort back then.

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

10 Years Ago
Imagine yourself 10 years ago. Could you think back on your understanding of love? Ten years ago, I didn’t know a lot about love, but I thought I did. At this time I believed:

  1. Being right was more important than loving other people.
  2. I did not know how to receive love.
  3. Romance was transactional and more about getting.
  4. I have polarized black and white/ good or bad thinking
  5. Caring (in hindsight) looked like for others to see.

But because I was an ok, working in one of the richest cities in the world in an architect job, not only did these not matter. I wasn’t aware I had them. Continue reading


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The Path to Freedom is Love


Archian - Life, Bacolod, Architecture, Finances & Dubai

Life Begins Here

For many times in my life, I don’t want to go through the process. I just want the results. I want the intimacy, not the spending time. I want the faith, I don’t want the desperation. I want healthy boundaries; I don’t want the mistakes to find it. I want the hope, not the falling and standing up. I want the girl, not the challenge. Well, life is about taking the journey to get to your destination. 😀

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

For some reason the journey gets heavier because of “culture” and “Christian tradition”. At other times, we put it on ourselves. I am a perfectionist, and though I talk about the Grace and Love of God, in practice I am blind and continue to work for God to accept me. There are some practices that hurt our journey by putting heavy rocks onto our already heavy load. Then we burden Continue reading


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The Awesome Power of Willingness


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The Awesome Power of Willingness!

Choice is what most people on earth have. You may not be able to choose your parents, siblings and current state in life, but most of the things you face – you could make a choice!

Personal Devotion to Change

Personal Devotion to Change

The struggle comes when we feel we are helpless in trying to change things that in reality are beyond our power. We feel stuck and in no-progress zone. As fear and terror grips us we go through the same cylcle until grace, a beautiful moment leads us to a powerfule discovery about change.

Most people are uncomfortable with change. In fact majority of people resist change and while change is inevitable. We must face it every day of out life. As we journey, we see that the more we struggle with things we cannot change, we get more stuck, but at the same time, if we willingly accept things we cannot change, we find forgiveness for ourselves and a new ticket to life. Continue reading