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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers


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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

Most of my life it feels is about measuring up and being ahead of everyone else. The problem isn’t that I’m not brilliant but that its hard to be the most promising entrepreneur, the budding architect-designer and the successful man-in-relationship.

I just heard from a podcast that life just happens. Our best laid plans fire away. It is easy to be tough on yourself and beat yourself up for not succeeding this time.

As I take this long walk home at 12:30am, I discover that there is so much love along the way. This new home away from home. I have cared about things and achievements for far too long. I’ve passed this site where once stood a very frustrated, angry and lost man. I saw my first day of work and all the insecurities of trying to look good and manipulating people; the fear of missing out in my life. And the elusive “red haired girl” (the mythical bond queen in Caucasian circles). Hehehe. I could just laugh at how unfair I’ve been trying to put the highest standard when I was just simply, afraid.

Tonight as I pass this once mud and steel bones, now structures of pretty glass and teeming with landscape, I remember there was so much love all along: friends, funy memories and a thousand laughs. I was just busy.

Busy.

Too busy to smell the flowers and feel the wind. To laugh with friends abd to love them. To cherish my workmates, victory group, crushes. ❤. And just be there! Experience fulness of life.

I was crazy trying to be someone so other people could accept me more. 🙂 I have to be blind that only I am missing that I am overflowing. Feeling empty looking for myself out there with something to fill the void. Blind to see that I was full all along. Take time to smell the flowers. . .

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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation


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How to Catch Myself in Approval Seeking and Validation

A few weeks ago, I went out for some personal evaluation as the year 2017 comes to an end. After a few notes, I am suddenly aware that most of my effort is to maintain approval, seek validation of a group of people I’m not even close to. I was seeking validation.

our toughest critics

our toughest critics

What Obsessive Approval Seeking is like? Continue reading


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A Year of Courage: OCCI LEAP 69


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A Year of Courage

Today I turn one year on my Second Enlightenment experience.

My first was when someone cared enough to share about Jesus, and I accepted him as my Savior and Lord. From that time, my life never became the same. The Second one happened last year. It was a colorful experience of learning how to laugh, to feel and to really love. Before it, I was simply thinking to laugh, thinking to feel, thinking to love.

The Enlightenment Journey - OCCI LEAP

The Enlightenment Journey – OCCI LEAP

This morning, my journey brings me to seek more courage. After taking my morning 60x of pushups, I reflected that this habit is not getting to be burden and I can move to my next habit project. Continue reading


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There are 3 pitfalls where most men fall: Power, Money, and Women.

The same goes for countries, except for women.

Thomas Jefferson and the Louisiana Purchase

Thomas Jefferson and the Louisiana Purchase

In 1803, Thomas Jefferson nearly doubled the size of the nation with the Louisiana purchase. He didn’t go to Paris with an army, he went with a checkbook. For $15 million, the results were very effective.

#moneytalks #usflexingitsmuscles

 


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I dont usually post messages but let me start a first. This is for my friend Segulah (its a Jewish name for a man of promise) Ic this word is familiar, you could claim it too.

Happy birthday bro. I have no wordz for you last night. But here goes.

Seg, bro i wnt to thank you for considrng me as ur close frnd.

Seg I want you to see that you are worthy to desire, pursue and live your dreams. Nothing of what you missed, how people see you
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There Never Will Be Anyone Like You


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There Never Will Be Anyone Like You

Fulfilling your Purpose for Worship

Fulfilling your Purpose for Worship

There never has been and never will be anyone like you. That isn’t a testament to you. It is a testament to the God who created you! You are unlike anyone who has ever lived! But that uniqueness isn’t a virtue. It is a responsibility.

Divine Uniqueness

Divine Uniqueness

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The Awesome Power of Willingness


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The Awesome Power of Willingness!

Choice is what most people on earth have. You may not be able to choose your parents, siblings and current state in life, but most of the things you face – you could make a choice!

Personal Devotion to Change

Personal Devotion to Change

The struggle comes when we feel we are helpless in trying to change things that in reality are beyond our power. We feel stuck and in no-progress zone. As fear and terror grips us we go through the same cylcle until grace, a beautiful moment leads us to a powerfule discovery about change.

Most people are uncomfortable with change. In fact majority of people resist change and while change is inevitable. We must face it every day of out life. As we journey, we see that the more we struggle with things we cannot change, we get more stuck, but at the same time, if we willingly accept things we cannot change, we find forgiveness for ourselves and a new ticket to life. Continue reading