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How the Spirit Realm looked like during Jesus Death and Resurection


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How the life of Jesus looked in the Spirit Realm

Everyone talks about it. We have different expectations on how it should be. Sometimes we have disappointments because what we thought it should look like doesn’t feel that way. I feel you.

Coming from a very analytical background really closed my mind. I am also a perfectionist (I learned it is actually pride to never admit mistakes, make it a habit and there you go, perfectionism, even for areas you want to be “normal”) But nothing is too great for God to break through. He gave me friends who were open enough to see the goodness of God in my life and spoke enough to convince me I was prophetic. Continue reading

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Waiting with Purpose


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Waiting with Purpose

As I sit in the airport, the voice box notify me that my flight is 1 hour delayed. Four years ago, I would easily have made a fuss. As I adjust to the new schedule, I reflect on the many things going well in my life. The friends I have, my work and my experience with God.

Sometimes chosing to be thankful feels like a distraction. It feels cowardly, running away from asserting how reality should be. It feels like tolerating incompetence and other people’s failure.

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How Buddha Can Help You Stop Sin in your Life


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How Buddha Can Help You Stop Sin in your Life

Born from a Christian family has its advantages and disadvantages. For one, there are many non-evangelical thinking I don’t have to worry about. On the other hand, there are also many things I take for granted. I was talking to a friend once who see Jesus in visions and constantly sees angels and demons with her own physical eyes open. (I haven’t seen any with eyes open and am extremely envious, only see them with eyes closed but can sense them) I asked her why she still chose to stay out of church. Her answer? “You kind of get used to it and and everyone else of my friends experience the same. But I haven’t been out of the church before and I felt stuck and need to get out.”

This shows that difference people experience life differently. I am blind to what I experience eveeyday. In my case every sunday. I think its ussually the common good things we take for granted that keeps us feeling stuck.

Before I share how Buddha can help you stop Sin, I would like to answer a question that is a little closer to home: Why do we even need Buddha to solve Sin issues that

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Happy Valentines! 2009 MTV One and Only You


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Happy Valentines! 10 Years Since

It’s Valentine’s Day!

After much thought and anticipation, I would like to post a video I made back in 2009. The video might look amateur but its my best effort back then.

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

10 Years Ago
Imagine yourself 10 years ago. Could you think back on your understanding of love? Ten years ago, I didn’t know a lot about love, but I thought I did. At this time I believed:

  1. Being right was more important than loving other people.
  2. I did not know how to receive love.
  3. Romance was transactional and more about getting.
  4. I have polarized black and white/ good or bad thinking
  5. Caring (in hindsight) looked like for others to see.

But because I was an ok, working in one of the richest cities in the world in an architect job, not only did these not matter. I wasn’t aware I had them. Continue reading


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Death Traps: Poor Boundaries and Healthy Emotions


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Death Traps: Poor Boundaries and Healthy Emotions

Since I learned of the bible, the prophetic books have been my favorite. I think it’s the objective poetry like Isaiah and Jeremiah. But not so the Psalms, I guess that makes me less of a song writer. 😦 For many years I could not understand what to do with the gloom and destruction verses. I don’t know if I am to see them in my own life?, to help me be sensitive to others in pain? or to raise protection for the victim?. Today I’ve come to see them in a different light.

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The Super Villains of Ourselves


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sThe Super Villains of Ourselves

Imagine yourself as Superman, unstoppable, a son of Jor-el. Your dad, the brightest scientist in Krypton encased you in an alien ship and in part 1 you grew up to be powerful.

Then in part 2, 3 Kryptonians broke free from their prison and come to planet earth. They decide that their goal is to find the most painful ways to torture you and give you a hard time.

For many of us this is a real story except that in real life, the 3 super villains are invisible.

Superman Man of Steel

Superman Man of Steel

Enter the Game of Life
“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?” Isaiah 58:6

I thought this passage was really for slave owners and cruel bosses. It still is but after 200 years of human rights and labor laws, there are very few slaves, count with them child abuse, battered women and abused helpers in the middle east. The abuses today are minute compared to the slaves eaten by lions and burn alive in the old days.

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The Deluge of Kindness


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The Deluge of God’s Kindness

I saw myself with a small pail, the one we typically use in bath here in the Philippines. This morning as I listen to worship, I see so many failings in my life. As I approached the Thrown with my pail, I only desired “a little water, Lord”. As a calmed and waited, the sky ripped open. Floods or rains washed over my world. I never saw so much water in my life.

So I threw my pail as the formerly dry ground around my valley soaked up the rain. As the ground became so wet, spontaneous shouts of joy and celebration fill in with people from all over earth. They were dacing and partying like crazy. Some playing in the presence of the Father. I saw some blacks and caucasians running around. It felt like an infinitely huge swimming pool.

The water speaks of the love of God – mercy goodness and kindness flowing from the heart of God. Head knowledge of God’s goodness never did me good. I never knew that deep in my heart I still believed good is just nice. He can’t be this loving awesome.

Soon the whole wide region flooded with God’s goodness. As I looked farther away, some patches of dry ground remain. And there was this huge dam that stops the flow to many areas. This dam is legalism and religion. It deprives the land and community of God’s love. Jesus said that “The Kingdom of God is within you.” Luke 17:21. Jesus opened the doorway to that dimension. Jesus is our key.

Then as I saw this huge dam, it got filled in and started to overflow. The love of God got through and those who felt far away were touched and transformed by the Love of God.


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The Myth of Pygmalion and what it Means


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The Myth of Pygmalion and What it Means

I open my laptop’s media player to hear some bad-ass tunes. Then the music played

Oh thinkin’ about all our younger years
There was only you and me
We were young and wild and free
Now nothin’ can take you away from me
We’ve been down that road before
But that’s over now
You keep me comin’ back for more
Baby, you’re all that I want
When you’re lyin’ here in my arms
I’m findin’ it hard to believe
We’re in heaven . . .

I listened.

Suddenly it brought me to another world. I felt a whole love story unveil again.

One that was there all along.

I didn’t know where the story came. It passed my mind as my “podcast mentors” visualize what they want in their life. The story of Pygmalion.

Pygmalion
In summary, Pygmalion was a talented Greek sculptor from Cyprus. He was frustrated by women so he dedicated himself to his work. He endeavored to create the perfect woman of his dreams. He named the beautiful work Galatea. Continue reading


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Who is This Man who Controls the Storm?


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Who is This Man who Controls the Storm?

When I was 12 years old, I had this rival in my territory (basically a 446 sq.m. house and lot). I could rule my mom and dad’s land except. . .

except. . .

Rooster attacks a little kid

Rooster attacks a little kid

. . . at the far end of the garden (of dirt, banana and ipil ipil trees) lived “The Great Rooster”. Many times my nannies thanked him because he strikes fear so ‘I do not go out and play at my friend’s house. The Rooster would flex its chest over my own territory. When I reclaim my place, he would power-peck and flying-scratch everyone who challenges him, especially me. This rooster also had some “chicks” and would lay very large eggs – double and sometimes triple yolk. Those would be our breakfast. I would hold aluminum “swords” – scraps from broken windows to challenge his authority. Continue reading


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Release from the Giants in your Life


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Release from the Giants in your Life

Powerful God of the Angel Armies

Powerful God of the Angel Armies

“I am the Lord, there is no other. I say to the mountains be thrown to the sea. I calm the storms and cause lightning to flash the skies. I am your Creator, the Ancient of Days. I created you in your mother’s womb.

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The Boundary of Christianity and Meditation


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The Meeting of Christianity and Meditation

Once upon a time a man lived in a cramped apartment. He had a wife and 2 kids and a 2000 square foot property. It is pretty big considering that that it was a 3 bedroom house with a wide lawn. Unfortunately, it didn’t feel so because the signs of the accumulated 30 years of living, was cramped all over the living area, dining and even the bedrooms. Items that he and his wife have collected lined up the front yard. Unfinished projects he hoped to finish lined his storage and stood at the master bedroom floor.

Clutter of our Lives

Clutter of our Lives

One day, a childhood friend from the Philippines called to ask a favor. He and his sister was going to stay over for a two-week vacation and use their place to crash. It wasn’t very comfortable but because of the friendship it was hard to say no.

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The Gift of Fruitfulness – Overflowing in Blessing


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The Gift of Fruitfulness – Overflowing in Blessing

Today I feast on avocadoes.

Having fruit for breakfast isn’t only healthy – it overflows with gratefulness. You see, this fruit came from home but it was not harvested from our “land”. It didn’t come from here.

There are no avocado trees in our lot.

Avocadoes and Gratefulness

Avocados and Gratefulness

As I eat this breakfast I am reminded of Joshua’s condition at the end of his life:

12 “I sent the Hornet ahead of you. It drove out the two Amorite kings—did your work for you. You didn’t have to do a thing, not so much as raise a finger.
13 “I handed you a land for which you did not work, towns you did not build. And here you are now living in them and eating from vineyards and olive groves you did not plant
14 “So now: Fear God. Worship him in total commitment.

As a child I used to see that things come easy my way. As the eldest with all the Aunt’s and Uncle’s gifts arrived abundantly.

Performing for Acceptance

Performing for Acceptance

Then school. I learned that value came from being intelligent and performing; winning at competitions. The message was you deserve the grade you get. And we only grade for intelligence and sports.

Then God shows up. You kind of get it that He loves me in spite of my imperfection. In practice, I cannot fully comprehend this. I ussually continue to pursue that grade.

Isn’t amazing that when the Israelites received their land, it was farmed and ready to produce? They received cattle from the Canaanites.

Then it hits you. It’s like Jesus. Someone who loves me and gave me all I need to live my life the way God perfectly intended me to.

Just like the avocadoes from the other lot, that blooms and throws its fruit on your lot, gently falling on you as blessings. God is really like that! He is thrilled to bless you, just rest. ☺

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I am in control, I CAN make anything Beautiful


“Hey you can mess up your life as bad as you want. That will not intimidate me from loving you. I am God, I am the master of the most impossible turn around. I enjoy working on especially hard circumstances while you rest on my lap. You are a champion, kiddo!”

Flow of Freshness in your life

Flow of Freshness in your life

“Because no matter how bad you think you’ve become, you will always be my son, and I will be proud of who you are what the steps you are making to be better. I know the great plans I have for you. Plans of a delightful future and an indescribably beautiful. Who do you think gave the ideas to Walt on all the happily ever after Disney endings. You haven’t seen the best yet, my son so you relax and trust me. I will bring you there. Rest in My presence.”

Love,

God.

The New Me

The New Me


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Your Guide to Visiting Dubai on Tight Budget – Travel Preparations


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Dubai Chronicles: Your Guide to Visiting Dubai on a Tight Budget – Travel Preparations

The Dubai Chronicles

A journey never begins until you take the first step. These are the basic steps.

Dubai Creek at Night

Dubai Creek at Night

Documents:

  1. Passport – check expiry
  2. Visa ( This can be paid for but can be provided by your relative in Dubai)

You can find visa from https://www.facebook.com/mcfabia

  1. Good Reason to come back to the Philippines

Any traveler going to Dubai will be considered by the Philippine Government as a potential expense as many Filipinos plan to find work and get deported by the Philippine government. As great as the OFW’s are to the economy, they are not paying a penny for their government to send them home. It’s the taxpayers back home paying for their repatriation.

 

Dubai Airport Passengers

Dubai Airport Passengers

  1. Petition Letter

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Bacolod/ Iloilo Portrait Services: Step by Step Colored Portrait


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Bacolod/ Iloilo Portrait Services: Step by Step Colored Portrait

“With courage and joy, I pursue my life with celebration and creativity.”

This above Declaration wouldn’t be made possible without God’s guidance in my year of 2017 Jubilee and this girl’s timely intro into my life. 🙂 She and God just released so much grace and celebration into my life.

This is my second colored portrait. The first one is a pastel and colored pencil on felt. It is a self portrait back in 1996. There’s so much heaviness in making art so much that this is the next one and so much grace flows I easily finished it! I believe God has really provided so much healing and restoration in my heart. Of course wht made it easier is I’m inspired hehehe.

Ian Jay Bantilan Self Portrait - Iloilo - Bacolod

Ian Jay Bantilan Self Portrait – Iloilo – Bacolod

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How to Hurt Less after a Loss (of Love)


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How to Hurt Less after a Loss (of Love) or
Why my first loss didn’t hurt as it should

She came back and saw me. Small talk. Then she dropped the nuclear. It came with fire. It explodes! I squinted through the smoke.

After a few seconds, I check for damage. I was unhurt. But how?

It’s not me like me. I remember once during 2008 recession when my company let me go. That was a rejection bomb. By the way, the stronghold spirits operating in my life is the Spirit of Rejection and Spirit of Fear. They have full control. So when my boss spoke the word, it felt like the whole sky turned black and dark all of a sudden. A heaviness fell over my heart and a dagger plunged deep into my soul. Ouch!! As much as I want to look casual and fine, I can’t. I looked broken and hurt. That is the power of a stronghold.

The Bomb of Rejection

The Bomb of Rejection

But this was a major bomb. It was a nuclear. And it was my first hopeful relationship. But why was I unscathed? I may be wrong, but this is why I didn’t hurt as much as I should from this loss.

Disclaimer: This is not reality as I may still be in denial. But this is as honest as I could on what my perspective looks like.

Love hurting from loss

Love hurting from loss

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180413 Revelation: My Own Gundam Suit


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180413 Revelation: My Own Gundam Suit

I was worshiping here in Bacolod and just allow God to speak.

God poured out His heart for me and assured me of His presence in my life. He was saying “this ride looks crazy as it is Ian. And you haven’t even started yet. I have to show you many things. I have a lot in store for you.” I just felt so blessed, to be chosen of God. The word in Psalms 23 kept running back in my mind: “surely goodness and mercy will keep running after you all the days of your life and I will thrive and never leave the presence of God every day of my life.” I can feel that it isn’t the place that will prosper me. Even Dubai, the US or Australia which are prosperous nations are nothing to compare with how I bless you. Imagine it, God will bless you just because you step onto their place – it is you who command the blessing to them. In Jesus, the blessings of Abraham are in YOU!

Angelic Demons Spiritual Form

Angelic Demons Spiritual Form (Sorry I can’t find something more closer to how they look)

While I was a teen, I read a Satanist-turned-Christian write about her experience how she was set free by Jesus. She describe these spirits physically as she saw them, including the big man himself! While she was sincere about how she experienced demonic oppression, it was not helpful for me because one of my weakness is the spirit of fear.  She describe demons as angelic beings who were handsome, 12 foot human like creatures who have thick dark black scales as armor and wings. They were skilled in their chosen field of expertise like the demon of Lust, demon of Alcohol, demon of Drugs, demon of Cancer, etc. I was pretty much paranoid as I imagined demons in everything that goes wrong in my life. The spirit of fear, drowned the oftentimes soft voice of God in my life. Continue reading


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The Path to Freedom is Love


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Life Begins Here

For many times in my life, I don’t want to go through the process. I just want the results. I want the intimacy, not the spending time. I want the faith, I don’t want the desperation. I want healthy boundaries; I don’t want the mistakes to find it. I want the hope, not the falling and standing up. I want the girl, not the challenge. Well, life is about taking the journey to get to your destination. 😀

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

For some reason the journey gets heavier because of “culture” and “Christian tradition”. At other times, we put it on ourselves. I am a perfectionist, and though I talk about the Grace and Love of God, in practice I am blind and continue to work for God to accept me. There are some practices that hurt our journey by putting heavy rocks onto our already heavy load. Then we burden Continue reading


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The “Being” of Experiencing God


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The “being” of Experiencing God

This morning, now my 6th day in my room, as I was looking for my Oil Pastel set (still looking for it) I found these.

the Gift of nice shoes

the Gift of nice shoes

Looks like a nice new pair of shoes. But nothing unusual you would say. But in fact what’s unusual is it’s been there beside my bed since December when I received it. Sorry Tita Leny. Sounds like my experience with God.

I have been too familiar with my life, but He’s always ‘game’ for a puzzle of hide n’ seek all the time. There are promises waiting for us in the background screaming in my face, yet all I could see is my sin, my job, my stuff, my business, my ministry. Have you taken time to smell the flowers lately?

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April Fools Pranks to Live by


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April Fools Pranks to Live by

I woke up today to the sound of “My Love will See You Through”. I felt like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Though I don’t intend to offend fans of older music, it was just depressing for me. . . Being serious in life has its down time. Ten years ago, I thought that being at the top and getting all the honors in university is everything that matters. I’ve had times where people admired me for being young and getting my license.

Feels good.

But as I focus on what else will bring you to the top, the trying gets exhausting. Only to find that when you get at the top, it is a far lonely place. Especially if you didn’t bring the people that mattered. I learned that what was actually important is friends, family and people you have shared your life with. Continue reading


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Morning Devotions: Coffee or the Cup on Easter


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Life Begins Here

Yesterday, while I was visiting a Christian bookstore, I saw this guy, probably a pastor, dressed well, ask for a King James Bible. But more than asking, he was babbling that Christians have been dabbling and changing the verses. That would have been okay but the message was, you mister bible sales guy have to agree with me. He was probably a conservative.

For most of my life, I have tried to change the world according to my world view. So when God reveals His plan for all mankind, Star Wars – Return of the Jedi style, I couldn’t help but imagine that when I share the gospel with people, they all look at me with eyes glazing and say “that’s awesome.” Continue reading


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180325 Revelation: The Liberation


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18 Mar 25 Revelation: The Liberation

As I sat comfortably on my trip going back to Bacolod. I put on my worship music.

Once I started to listed. I could literally feel God translated me to a deeper dimension.

He was saying “All this concerns you have. Have no fear. I can take care of you. You are no longer an orphan. I am your real Father. I can provide you all you need and all your desires too.”

God then walked me back to when I was 4 years old. I could sense the emptiness and the void in my heart. All throughout we went until we saw me in high school. I could again sense the shame and brokenness.

Alone time in Prayer

Alone time in Prayer

“Do you know know I was there all along. I purposed you with these weakness because I had a beautiful plan in your life.” Continue reading


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Dreams don’t come instantly, heres why


Dreams don’t come instantly. Here’s why.

It pays to let God. He’s never late.


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180228 Vision: the Curse of Cain


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180228 Vision: the Curse of Cain

As I was worshiping, a thick presence of the Lord fell upon me and His love surrounded like a cloud. And then the voice started.

“I know you since you were born, I knit you together in your mothers womb.” Then all my concerns came back to me as the declaration of the worship song flooded my mind. “I am no longer a slave to fear.” Then God reminded me of so many situations that fear is overpowering in my life.

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Vision Feb 07 2018 The Father’s Heart


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The Road to Healthy Boundaries

Father is holding his Son

Father is holding his Son

Father is holding his Son
Father is holding his Son

Then He transported me into the heavenly realms. I filled my heart with worship and gave it to Him. He said “You don’t have to”.

I said “I want to.”

He answered “You don’t have to.”

I replied “I want to worship you Lord.”

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Some Messages to Pepper the Girl on Valentine’s


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Some Messages to Pepper the Girl on Valentine’s

At this 3rd decade, I’m still learning to get dates. I’ve learned to appreciate my seasons. Here’s a few messages to give the girl on your mind on this month of love.

Romantic Attraction Quotes and Pickup Lines

Romantic Attraction Quotes and Pickup Lines

  1. You were amazing last night. Imagine what it would be like if it wasn’t just in my dreams.
  2. I really like our friendship but do you want to make it more?
  3. Can I see what’s in your pockets; I think you’ve stolen my heart.
  4. You’re already on my mind and I’ve just woken up.
  5. Do you have a to-do list? If yes, put me on it.
  6. Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
  7. I’m a bit like a Rubik’s cube, I get harder the more you play with me.
  8. I understand you don’t want any more children, but is there any change we could practice tonight?
  9. The best thing about a keyboard is that U and I are together.
  10. Don’t tire yourself out at work. You’ll need some energy for later.
  11. At night time I sleep dreaming of you, and in the daytime I dream sleeping with you.
  12. I’m trying my best to fall asleep, but I just can’t stop thinking about you.
  13. You looked so beautiful the last time I saw you I forgot my pickup line.
  14. Every time you enter the room, you enter my heart.
  15. Send me a picture, so I can give Santa my wish list.
  16. Here’s hoping your day consist of . . . . and the quickest route to bring you straight into my arms.
  17. On a beautiful day like this, the only thing that could improve is having you by my side.
  18. A hundred miles away and you’re still right here in my heart.
  19. I wish I was your mirror so that I could look at you every morning.
  20. You’re so hot I get a tan every time I look at you.
  21. Sweet dreams. I hope I was in them. 😉
  22. Don’t listen to your friends, listen to your heart!!
  23. The next time you see your parents, send them my sincerest gratitude.
  24. Can you send me a picture; my friends don’t believe that angels exist.
  25. God created the world in six days, rested on the 7th but it took Him thousands of years to produce someone as beautiful as you.
  26. This email is a group message to 10/10 girls in the area. Currently you are the only recipient.
  27. I’m tired at work because I’m a perfectionist in most things I do. That’s why I like you so much.
  28. You look a lot like my next girlfriend!
  29. Do you know any good heart doctor, because my heart skips a beat looking in your eyes.
  30. Of all the stars in the sky, there is not as beautiful as you.

Warning: Don’t try this on strangers. The author holds no responsibility if any slaps are given or police called when you try this on strangers. 🙂


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My Virtual Love Life in One Tree Hill


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My Virtual Love Life in One Tree Hill

I’ve never really lived in community. I was the outcast trying to fit i, in high school or college. By college, I had some clout attending Victory and studying in one of Asia’s premier university and got some status man of God, desirable, intelligent. So much for a guy who based his identity on how popular he is, not on how many women he slept with, how many drunken parties he’s been to and how much money he had. Hint: the last three – none.

So when I was isolated working in a far off Arab country, the things that you didn’t pursue as a college boy begin to haunt you. Especially one fact that I still didn’t have a girlfriend. So when the opportunity to vicariously live this life I desired to have, keeps dangling in a series, I was entranced! It can’t get anything better than this!

One Tree Hill Lead Characters

One Tree Hill Lead Characters

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Learning to Trust God


Lesson in trust

For most my life I trust only what I can see. But often we only see part of what God is doing. I try to peice but it is not mine to figure out.

This is the window of view where most of the times, God sovereignly covers our view with blur. But the reality of His purpose is the one below. Continue reading


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10 Things I learned from Drei: What a Future Dad Wants to Know


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10 Things I learned from Drei: What a Future Dad Wants to Know

Would you believe that in high school, I only wanted to marry a girl but never want to have children?

Yes.

Younger Carefree Me

Younger Carefree Me – cant find any hilarious me pic. Sorry Ghe, haha!

I dread having to wash soiled laundry, wake at every hour in the morning, keep all 2 hands occupied (not being able to defend myself for any ninja or terrorist attack) and eat half-consumed food – a simple glimpse of a sanitized, single and carefree me. But as I grew older, I matured and learned to see differently.

I yearn to be a dad.

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Live Die Repeat: What to do when you’re Stuck


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Live Die Repeat: Courage to Move Forward

 

I was looking to re-watch the films that made an impression on me this year. I could remember that “Edge of Tomorrow” was one of them. The films stars Tom Cruise and the beautiful Emily Blunt. The story is about an alien invasion of earth. Continue reading


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2018: Courage to Dare, a Self Prophecy


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2018: Courage to Dare, a Self Prophecy

As I write this journal of today, I feel a new excitement that grips me. There is  a warmth and thrill of facing the coming new year. Intentions are powerful as they convey the meaning of our purpose. Here are the things I am eager about.

On January of 2018,

I see myself a better brother to Jerry.
I am going to love my sister a little bit more.
I am going to love friends differently.

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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers


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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

Most of my life it feels is about measuring up and being ahead of everyone else. The problem isn’t that I’m not brilliant but that its hard to be the most promising entrepreneur, the budding architect-designer and the successful man-in-relationship.

I just heard from a podcast that life just happens. Our best laid plans fire away. It is easy to be tough on yourself and beat yourself up for not succeeding this time.

As I take this long walk home at 12:30am, I discover that there is so much love along the way. This new home away from home. I have cared about things and achievements for far too long. I’ve passed this site where once stood a very frustrated, angry and lost man. I saw my first day of work and all the insecurities of trying to look good and Continue reading


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Iloilo-Bacolod Fastcraft and Ship Travel Schedule 2017


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Iloilo-Bacolod Fastcraft and Ship Travel Schedule 2017

Cebu Adventure on the Highest Seas and Badian

Guimaras Adventure on the Highest Seas

The cit1y of Iloilo has become one of the must-visit places in the country. With the growth of its Business Process Outsourcing (BPO – Call Center industry) and the blossoming of its coastal river paradise, it has become a magnetic attractor of tourist. I have seen it grow from my arrival here at 2014, with over 20 couples from Manila and all over the country relocating here. All for good reason.

A stone’s throw away from Iloilo is Bacolod City, an equally majestic city with a

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One day, while I was riding the public transport, I happen to sit beside this beautiful blond 3 year old sitting on the lap of her nanny. I saw that all the passengers were charmed by her cuteness and I too fell in love. How can an English speaking toddler not find her way into your heart. Two young ladies took an special interest in the girl Continue reading


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33 Nuggets of Wisdom for Wives, Future Wives and Moms


When I was in college I was a hopeless romantic, clueless in real relationships. After countless religious youth meetings and fired up motivational speeches in finding the ideal woman, I finally put down my non-negotiables in an ideal lady-to-marry.

Here’s the final four:

A. Raised like a queen (confident)
B. Motherly (personifies kindness and compassion)
C. Passionate about Jesus
D. Intelligent

Fast forward to 10 years, working and eternally single, a lot has changed in my expectations. (Most to blame is all the Disney movies that mess up my expectations) 🙂 Hehe! Continue reading


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The Blessing of Family and Pets


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The Blessing of Family and Pets

Last Sunday, I met our fun loving new American bulldog Buddee. He was very charming. I heard from my brother that we just got him that morning. He was a very spirited dog, an overexcited little mutt.  As I walked him around the lawn, his hurried sniffing antics and careless running about hit me. Suddenly I was endeared to him.

(Sorry Ill have a proper picture next time. Guardian of the Bantilan estate, Buddee G. Bantilan. Continue reading


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Today I meet a legend.

I usually save 15% of salary. That is here in the Philippines. That goes negative from December to January. When IU worked aborad I reached 45%.

I have never met anyone except for some Chinese friends who are really extreme. But tonight, I was surprised to find someone who save so much. And I thought I was already thrifty.

Some spoilers:
She’s single.
She walks home.
She has provincial allowance (Manila hired to work here)
And she has a considerable amount in stocks.
But I have never seen her in fancy clothes.
Very low profile indeed!

1. Anything is possible. It is common that budget adjust with salary. It doesn’t have to.
2. We have to live in our own reality. You-me-different.
3. It’s important to know what you want and attack it with passion. No one will force you to do what you don’t want.

Now, I’m asking, how much are you saving monthly? (as a percentage of your income)


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Arki Thesis blues: the Difference between Concept and Philosophy?


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Arki Thesis blues: the Difference between Concept and Philosophy?

During my student years, concepts and philosophy never got explained clearly. It’s one of those things you read from the Project brief and your kind of catch from comparing notes with what your best friend did in Architecture School.
Architecture Sketch - Design Concept -Frank Gehry Partners

Architecture Sketch – Design Concept -Frank Gehry Partners

One of the challenge during school was that in UST, it always rained. And the guys who top the board exams are simply brilliant, hard researching dudes with monster drawing skills. Back to Architecture – here’s the Question: What is a concept?

A design concept is a statement that expresses your approach to the design problem. The concept speaks to a specific problem/project but is still in line with your Design Philosophy. It creates a connection between the design problem and the design solution. The concept is consistent throughout the design itself. Your concept should relate

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The Jordan: Crossing the Promised Land

Filipinos are a breed of sentimental people. They seldom like goodbyes. But there was one goodbye from this place a thousand years ago that was equally heavy emotionally: Moses who has fought and prayed and fasted to reach the Promise Land is a few kilometers of his goal but God says, this is as far as you can go. From the thick air which blurs out the whole valley, we could see miles and miles of endless sand, glimmering in the morning sun while cool breeze blow through my face.

This is Mount Nebo in Jordan.

How we ended there? is a long story. This how its happened.

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Comfort Zone Challenge – Meeting in Israel – Completion Episode


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Comfort Zone Challenge – Joyfully Meeting Israel

Completion Episode

Surprise! I am back with a vengeance. They say “it doesn’t matter how small the gate or charge with judgement the scroll, I am the captain of my fate.”

1000 year old mosaic of a Christian Church in Nebo in Jordan

Arch Ian Jay in front of a 1000 year old mosaic of a Christian Church in Nebo in Jordan

I am delighted to find that I have actually completed my adventure in Israel to meet 10 pretty non-filipino women and have a picture with them. For others this may not be significant but the lessons in life is most significant to the learner, not the audience. I am sharing this to share my joy of completion. If you haven’t read the previous post Joyfully Meeting Girls in Israel part 1.

Enter Comfort Zone Challenge

Again what is a Comfort Zone challenge? Comfort Zone challenges are planned actions to face a fear with the primary goal of overcoming this fear or increasing your courage and confidence. This action includes a calculated risk of negative social evaluation but does not expose you to real danger or long-term negative consequences.”

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Spoken Word: Love at Eighty-fa–v (85)


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Spoken Word: I wanna fall in Love at 85
Written and performed by IN-Q

Living Present Loveing Future

Living Present Loveing Future

I wanna fall in Love at 85
Go on shuffleboard dates and dance to hip-hop from ‘95
Our song would be Staying Alive, but only for the message
Otherwise we’d keep away from disco, it’s depressing
We’d rock matching tracksuits and rope gold chains
We’d look like Run DMC but in their old age
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Funny Antedotes about Self-Forgiveness


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From Mark Rutland of Every Nation World Conference.

Dr Mark Rutland

Dr Mark Rutland

Some years ago a magazine put out a survey. They asked their readers to tell them “What the most they most would love to hear another person to say to them. “What would you like another person to say to you?” Out of the thousands and thousands of responses. They brought it down to the top three.

Covenants and Forgiveness

Covenants and Forgiveness

Three things that Americans want to be “said to you”.

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Personality Profiling for Work Productivity


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Methods of Personality Profiling for Work Productivity

A Comparison: Strengthfinder, Myers-Briggs, DISC Profiles and Enneagram

personalities and uniqueness

personalities and uniqueness

When I was in high school, discussions about personality revolved around the four temperaments, the sanguine, choleric, melancholic and phlegmatic. Due to my interest in psychology, if I didn’t become architect, I would have probably taken psychology.

During the same time, I came across the Enneagram. How interesting can it be as it can predict what a fully developed personality would progress into? And at the same time, how a peresonality at its worse can degress to a different type.

Nowadays, the study of personality has taken in a strong motivation and purpose: work productivity. I have rediscovered newer personality classification in Church Leadership in Victory Christian Fellowship, Networking Circles and through OCCI Coaching Programs.

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Enneagram Personality Profiles

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The Alternative: Casual Christian Dating?


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Christian Dating confusion

Christian Dating confusion

Christian Casual Dating?

Why it’s Time to Simplify the puzzle of Christian Romance.

Credits to author Nicole Unice from http://www.relevantmagazine.com

A wise man once said that there are only two outcomes for dating relationships: getting married or breaking up. “The secret,” he said, “is knowing how to handle a dating relationship so you know if the other person is worth marrying or he or she is honored in the breakup.”

Unfortunately, it seems like many young singles struggle to figure out just how to handle dating–and I’m not the only one who’s noticed how weird the Christian dating can be. Someone in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!” Continue reading


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LCC- Marker / Basic Architecture Rendering using Markers


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Basic Architecture Rendering using Markers
by Arch Ian Jay Bantilan

Prismacolor Marker Tip

Prismacolor Marker Tip

Mark ‘yer Qualities.

Markers are colored pens with tips made of porous material like felt. Most markers today are alcohol based and hence have a cap to prevent rapid evaporation of your prescious ink.

The proffessional markers have 2 tips – the thin point side (1) and the wide wedge (2). Some will have a nib similar to fountain pens (3).

Markers can have the tendency to leak everywhere if not controlled right. You must develop the skill to control how the ink flows to your paper by applying different pressure and varying the angle of touching the paper. Like any other medium, markers lend a different feel to colours and pictures in general. I personally think that markers can be the easiest to control amongst traditional liquid colouring techniques.

Select your Paper.
Different qualities of Markers will have different marks on paper. Different papers can also enhance or destroy your render. It is best to try your marker on paper before you do an all-out rendering marathon. It’s easier to work on a paper that gives you a hand.


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Find What You Love by Steve Jobs


Archian - Life, Bacolod, Architecture, Finances & DubaiI can’t help but make another post about this man: Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios. Please bear with me, this next post is the Speech for the  Commencement address on June 12, 2005. (See the Video in the Middle of the Post)

FIND WHAT YOU LOVE by Apple CEO Steve Jobs

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from Continue reading


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How to Graduate from Perfectionism


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How to Graduate from Perfectionism

Peter Parker said “With great gift comes great responsibility.” This can be truer for perfectionists like me. Unfortunately, talent doesn’t matter for perfectionists. It’s all responsibility. The talent (something you value) now becomes a curse that you can’t stop.

How did the World get Mixed up This Way?

You see, we were born for freedom and we yearn for it. Not just many people, all people!

Now there are some truths that are really a big deception. Perfectionism, is an over reaction to some shame, guilt, fear and rejection we experience in the past. Our response is to do something exceptionally well to compensate. And yearn to be free.

How do you Stop Perfectionism?

This is a good question. But rather than answering, let me ask a simpler question: “How do you graduate from Right or Wrong thinking?” You see, perfectionism, if you are clear now to see it as it is, and have a desire to break free from it, is Right or Wrong thinking. A few years back I felt trapped and obsessed on how people are really “good” or “bad”. I have deep fears about being financially deceived by people and I can’t let go unless I could be certain that they are “good” or “bad”. The reality my friend is that no one is completely right or wrong we are always discovering about who we are and what we want. We will never settle how “bad” a person is no matter how painful what they have done in the past.

So “How do you stop from Right or Wrong thinking?”
The logical answer is to do some things that are Right, and do some things that are Wrong. But reason will not be enough to be set free. It’s the Way of Thinking that is holding us. It is the thinking or control in thinking that we can define another person. The truth is we can not know everything.

Instead of defining reality, we can accept people, things and reality as it is. This way of thinking is expansive. It is willing to learn. Instead of labelling people, things and circumstances, (worse I defined myself as a failure) we can hold the judgement and accept that we are just making assumptions. Therefore we are willing to be wrong. That’s why it feels brave. It keeps asking questions to learn and keep on learning.

So “How do you graduate from Right or Wrong thinking?”
Answer: We never graduate. We keep making choices, try to learn to make things better, fall down, pick ourselves up and try again.

We do some things that we feel are Right, and do some things that we feel are Wrong. And we live according to whats true to us. This is graduation.

Well, how about maturity? Well that’s easy. God never expects us to be perfect, the way you define “perfect”.

Maturity is . . . . doing some things that you feel are Right, doing some things that you feel are Wrong.
But live according to whats true to you.
Then just be aware of what God wants for you and what God is doing in other people. 😉 That takes you way farther than you know!


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Maturing in Attraction


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Maturing in Attraction

INTJs are unique creatures, just ask me. Having an INTJ personality gives me a weak understanding of emotions. That’s why relationship seems to be the challenge for me. Read about INTJs from 16personalities.com or find out your personality and romantic solutions! Nevertheless, INTJs are the most loyal people you will find. Your challenge with them is actually how to hook them. 😊

I’m just elated to see how my declarations changed regarding improving friendships with girls I seem to like. I am posting this to open more awareness of guys who are INTJs or in a bad emotional situation in relationships.

The old declaration is “I am already complete! When I find a pretty girl I say “I like you, so what”! Only I can complete me.” First of all you wouldnt want to see my previous declarations. It’s simply embarrassing how insecure I was. But I’m still me.

From above, you can see it is still in the self-conscious-I-dont-know-how-to-deal-with-this frame. This is because my reality is I am pushing my emotions back to submission like any good intj. This feels like a very hung-up kind of guy. Hehehe. But it’s on target to the truth of knowing he is already complete.

What I Want

I am aware that I want to stop resisting emotional attraction and let it flow more freely. I also want to be so secure I dont have “to say no” to ladies I’m not pursuing, which is still fear. Instead I want to be so confident what I dont want just doesn’t register.

Instead I want to flow from the abundance of who I am and what God wants me to be that I lack no good thing in my life. And the interesting ladies I meet would have to shake up this fulness and make me want to share my life with them.

Today my declaration is: “When I’m attracted to a pretty lady I will honor what God is doing in my life and honor what He is doing in her life.”

This reframe shows a higher perspective. There’s no more trying to do anything or find that girl. When she is ready, she will come into my life. That comes from trust and not fear.

Face it guys, there are a billion girls in this planet. It’s not saying yes to the right one that will be your problem – its saying no to those that shouldn’t be in your life. And I’m not talking about . . . , I’m talking about the nice ones that you just know were not for you but it was easier ro have someones hand on valentines day because your heart felt so empty and you feel so horny. Hehehe. Hugot.

Thats why its important to recognize your intuition. And being honest to yourself will give you the strength to honor and receive what is for you the same way to say no to what is not for you.

When you say yes to someone who’s not for you makes it hard to say yes to the one that is right. Why? You already married because she got pregnant. That was a joke but it could be true. Honoring changes the perspective and brings clarity to your decisions.

This time I start to be ok feeling attracted and start asking the Holy Spirit what He is doing – finally know if my name is written in her life. 🙂

I’m still not looking for a lifetime partner. But now I know how to deal with emotions! It’s time to live it.


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Bible Reading: from Law to Joy


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Bible Reading: from Law to Joy

Back in 2011, I was struggling about bible reading and Im not reaching my chapters per day. I asked a friend about it and was enlightened from his answer.

He answered:”Ian, maturity speaks that you let God love you whether you read your bible every day or never read it again. You’re making reading your bible into a law that you have to try very hard to keep. Jesus came that we might be dead to laws.”

He said “Reading your bible is a way of getting to know God better. What would you think if a friend said you, “Ian, I feel I should spend 10 minutes every day with you, and if I don’t, I’ll feel really bad about the situation.” Would you be happy for the friend to feel this way…? Neither does God.”

“Allow me to release you from your requirement to read your bible every day. You’re a born again believer who has been made new and has his word written on your heart. How do I know? Scripture tells me so. Feel free to come to God and read word as the Spirit leads you. Remember, “Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” So walk in freedom & in the Spirit and not in the rules & laws the we find ourselves living under.”

“God bless you Ian as you walk this revelation out. Cheers, stay in touch.”