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Playing not to Lose vs Dominating your Game

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Dominating the Game of Life

Life is like basketball.

The team that only “doesn’t want to lose” is gonna be pitiful.

You always play to win.

Playing to win means dominating in every pass, every dribble and every shoot.

In life, playing not to lose is like becoming a better person. Just not losing, not going to hell.

Holiness is good and pleases God. But sinning less so that you can have smaller debt to God is crazy. Do you know Jesus didn’t pay exact price for you? He paid way exorbitant fees so that you can be sure that He paid in full. He even gave a receipt – He defeated death.

He paid way over and told devil, “Keep the change, this guys mine now.” He did it for 3 reasons, because He wants you to know:

1. How valuable you are.
2. That its useless to pay for additional fees which devil has the freedom to embezzle you for
3. That you also have to do the same: dont try for passing grade to heaven but totally dominate and be the most powerful you, there has ever been.

Playing Life to Win – Dominating every aspect of your Game

Its time to go and Dominate your Life, champ. There’s no one else that can play life for you!

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Loved You for a Thousand Years

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How we can Turn Back Time and Aging

Eternal Introduction

I was a mortal. You were a God.
But you have loved me from everlasting to everlasting.
Before I was born, you knew me.
I was your beloved son. You were the Father.
So you sent Him from the Golden streets of Heaven and came to earth.

You loved me.

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How the Spirit Realm looked like during Jesus Death and Resurection

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How the life of Jesus looked in the Spirit Realm

Everyone talks about it. We have different expectations on how it should be. Sometimes we have disappointments because what we thought it should look like doesn’t feel that way. I feel you.

Coming from a very analytical background really closed my mind. I am also a perfectionist (I learned it is actually pride to never admit mistakes, make it a habit and there you go, perfectionism, even for areas you want to be “normal”) But nothing is too great for God to break through. He gave me friends who were open enough to see the goodness of God in my life and spoke enough to convince me I was prophetic. Continue reading

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Waiting with Purpose

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Waiting with Purpose

As I sit in the airport, the voice box notify me that my flight is 1 hour delayed. Four years ago, I would easily have made a fuss. As I adjust to the new schedule, I reflect on the many things going well in my life. The friends I have, my work and my experience with God.

Sometimes chosing to be thankful feels like a distraction. It feels cowardly, running away from asserting how reality should be. It feels like tolerating incompetence and other people’s failure.

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How Buddha Can Help You Stop Sin in your Life

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How Buddha Can Help You Stop Sin in your Life

Born from a Christian family has its advantages and disadvantages. For one, there are many non-evangelical thinking I don’t have to worry about. On the other hand, there are also many things I take for granted. I was talking to a friend once who see Jesus in visions and constantly sees angels and demons with her own physical eyes open. (I haven’t seen any with eyes open and am extremely envious, only see them with eyes closed but can sense them) I asked her why she still chose to stay out of church. Her answer? “You kind of get used to it and and everyone else of my friends experience the same. But I haven’t been out of the church before and I felt stuck and need to get out.”

This shows that difference people experience life differently. I am blind to what I experience eveeyday. In my case every sunday. I think its ussually the common good things we take for granted that keeps us feeling stuck.

Before I share how Buddha can help you stop Sin, I would like to answer a question that is a little closer to home: Why do we even need Buddha to solve Sin issues that

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Happy Valentines! 2009 MTV One and Only You

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Happy Valentines! 10 Years Since

It’s Valentine’s Day!

After much thought and anticipation, I would like to post a video I made back in 2009. The video might look amateur but its my best effort back then.

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

One and Only You by Ian Jay Bantilan

10 Years Ago
Imagine yourself 10 years ago. Could you think back on your understanding of love? Ten years ago, I didn’t know a lot about love, but I thought I did. At this time I believed:

  1. Being right was more important than loving other people.
  2. I did not know how to receive love.
  3. Romance was transactional and more about getting.
  4. I have polarized black and white/ good or bad thinking
  5. Caring (in hindsight) looked like for others to see.

But because I was an ok, working in one of the richest cities in the world in an architect job, not only did these not matter. I wasn’t aware I had them. Continue reading

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Death Traps: Poor Boundaries and Healthy Emotions

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Death Traps: Poor Boundaries and Healthy Emotions

Since I learned of the bible, the prophetic books have been my favorite. I think it’s the objective poetry like Isaiah and Jeremiah. But not so the Psalms, I guess that makes me less of a song writer. 😦 For many years I could not understand what to do with the gloom and destruction verses. I don’t know if I am to see them in my own life?, to help me be sensitive to others in pain? or to raise protection for the victim?. Today I’ve come to see them in a different light.

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The Super Villains of Ourselves

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sThe Super Villains of Ourselves

Imagine yourself as Superman, unstoppable, a son of Jor-el. Your dad, the brightest scientist in Krypton encased you in an alien ship and in part 1 you grew up to be powerful.

Then in part 2, 3 Kryptonians broke free from their prison and come to planet earth. They decide that their goal is to find the most painful ways to torture you and give you a hard time.

For many of us this is a real story except that in real life, the 3 super villains are invisible.

Superman Man of Steel

Superman Man of Steel

Enter the Game of Life
“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?” Isaiah 58:6

I thought this passage was really for slave owners and cruel bosses. It still is but after 200 years of human rights and labor laws, there are very few slaves, count with them child abuse, battered women and abused helpers in the middle east. The abuses today are minute compared to the slaves eaten by lions and burn alive in the old days.

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The Deluge of Kindness

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The Deluge of God’s Kindness

I saw myself with a small pail, the one we typically use in bath here in the Philippines. This morning as I listen to worship, I see so many failings in my life. As I approached the Thrown with my pail, I only desired “a little water, Lord”. As a calmed and waited, the sky ripped open. Floods or rains washed over my world. I never saw so much water in my life.

So I threw my pail as the formerly dry ground around my valley soaked up the rain. As the ground became so wet, spontaneous shouts of joy and celebration fill in with people from all over earth. They were dacing and partying like crazy. Some playing in the presence of the Father. I saw some blacks and caucasians running around. It felt like an infinitely huge swimming pool.

The water speaks of the love of God – mercy goodness and kindness flowing from the heart of God. Head knowledge of God’s goodness never did me good. I never knew that deep in my heart I still believed good is just nice. He can’t be this loving awesome.

Soon the whole wide region flooded with God’s goodness. As I looked farther away, some patches of dry ground remain. And there was this huge dam that stops the flow to many areas. This dam is legalism and religion. It deprives the land and community of God’s love. Jesus said that “The Kingdom of God is within you.” Luke 17:21. Jesus opened the doorway to that dimension. Jesus is our key.

Then as I saw this huge dam, it got filled in and started to overflow. The love of God got through and those who felt far away were touched and transformed by the Love of God.

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The Myth of Pygmalion and what it Means

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The Myth of Pygmalion and What it Means

I open my laptop’s media player to hear some bad-ass tunes. Then the music played

Oh thinkin’ about all our younger years
There was only you and me
We were young and wild and free
Now nothin’ can take you away from me
We’ve been down that road before
But that’s over now
You keep me comin’ back for more
Baby, you’re all that I want
When you’re lyin’ here in my arms
I’m findin’ it hard to believe
We’re in heaven . . .

I listened.

Suddenly it brought me to another world. I felt a whole love story unveil again.

One that was there all along.

I didn’t know where the story came. It passed my mind as my “podcast mentors” visualize what they want in their life. The story of Pygmalion.

In summary, Pygmalion was a talented Greek sculptor from Cyprus. He was frustrated by women so he dedicated himself to his work. He endeavored to create the perfect woman of his dreams. He named the beautiful work Galatea. Continue reading

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Who is This Man who Controls the Storm?

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Who is This Man who Controls the Storm?

When I was 12 years old, I had this rival in my territory (basically a 446 sq.m. house and lot). I could rule my mom and dad’s land except. . .

except. . .

Rooster attacks a little kid

Rooster attacks a little kid

. . . at the far end of the garden (of dirt, banana and ipil ipil trees) lived “The Great Rooster”. Many times my nannies thanked him because he strikes fear so ‘I do not go out and play at my friend’s house. The Rooster would flex its chest over my own territory. When I reclaim my place, he would power-peck and flying-scratch everyone who challenges him, especially me. This rooster also had some “chicks” and would lay very large eggs – double and sometimes triple yolk. Those would be our breakfast. I would hold aluminum “swords” – scraps from broken windows to challenge his authority. Continue reading

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Release from the Giants in your Life

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Release from the Giants in your Life

Powerful God of the Angel Armies

Powerful God of the Angel Armies

“I am the Lord, there is no other. I say to the mountains be thrown to the sea. I calm the storms and cause lightning to flash the skies. I am your Creator, the Ancient of Days. I created you in your mother’s womb.

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The Boundary of Christianity and Meditation

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The Meeting of Christianity and Meditation

Once upon a time a man lived in a cramped apartment. He had a wife and 2 kids and a 2000 square foot property. It is pretty big considering that that it was a 3 bedroom house with a wide lawn. Unfortunately, it didn’t feel so because the signs of the accumulated 30 years of living, was cramped all over the living area, dining and even the bedrooms. Items that he and his wife have collected lined up the front yard. Unfinished projects he hoped to finish lined his storage and stood at the master bedroom floor.

Clutter of our Lives

Clutter of our Lives

One day, a childhood friend from the Philippines called to ask a favor. He and his sister was going to stay over for a two-week vacation and use their place to crash. It wasn’t very comfortable but because of the friendship it was hard to say no.

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The Gift of Fruitfulness – Overflowing in Blessing

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The Gift of Fruitfulness – Overflowing in Blessing

Today I feast on avocadoes.

Having fruit for breakfast isn’t only healthy – it overflows with gratefulness. You see, this fruit came from home but it was not harvested from our “land”. It didn’t come from here.

There are no avocado trees in our lot.

Avocadoes and Gratefulness

Avocados and Gratefulness

As I eat this breakfast I am reminded of Joshua’s condition at the end of his life:

12 “I sent the Hornet ahead of you. It drove out the two Amorite kings—did your work for you. You didn’t have to do a thing, not so much as raise a finger.
13 “I handed you a land for which you did not work, towns you did not build. And here you are now living in them and eating from vineyards and olive groves you did not plant
14 “So now: Fear God. Worship him in total commitment.

As a child I used to see that things come easy my way. As the eldest with all the Aunt’s and Uncle’s gifts arrived abundantly.

Performing for Acceptance

Performing for Acceptance

Then school. I learned that value came from being intelligent and performing; winning at competitions. The message was you deserve the grade you get. And we only grade for intelligence and sports.

Then God shows up. You kind of get it that He loves me in spite of my imperfection. In practice, I cannot fully comprehend this. I ussually continue to pursue that grade.

Isn’t amazing that when the Israelites received their land, it was farmed and ready to produce? They received cattle from the Canaanites.

Then it hits you. It’s like Jesus. Someone who loves me and gave me all I need to live my life the way God perfectly intended me to.

Just like the avocadoes from the other lot, that blooms and throws its fruit on your lot, gently falling on you as blessings. God is really like that! He is thrilled to bless you, just rest. ☺


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I am in control, I CAN make anything Beautiful

“Hey you can mess up your life as bad as you want. That will not intimidate me from loving you. I am God, I am the master of the most impossible turn around. I enjoy working on especially hard circumstances while you rest on my lap. You are a champion, kiddo!”

Flow of Freshness in your life

Flow of Freshness in your life

“Because no matter how bad you think you’ve become, you will always be my son, and I will be proud of who you are what the steps you are making to be better. I know the great plans I have for you. Plans of a delightful future and an indescribably beautiful. Who do you think gave the ideas to Walt on all the happily ever after Disney endings. You haven’t seen the best yet, my son so you relax and trust me. I will bring you there. Rest in My presence.”



The New Me

The New Me

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Your Guide to Visiting Dubai on Tight Budget – Travel Preparations

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Dubai Chronicles: Your Guide to Visiting Dubai on a Tight Budget – Travel Preparations

The Dubai Chronicles

A journey never begins until you take the first step. These are the basic steps.

Dubai Creek at Night

Dubai Creek at Night


  1. Passport – check expiry
  2. Visa ( This can be paid for but can be provided by your relative in Dubai)

You can find visa from

  1. Good Reason to come back to the Philippines

Any traveler going to Dubai will be considered by the Philippine Government as a potential expense as many Filipinos plan to find work and get deported by the Philippine government. As great as the OFW’s are to the economy, they are not paying a penny for their government to send them home. It’s the taxpayers back home paying for their repatriation.


Dubai Airport Passengers

Dubai Airport Passengers

  1. Petition Letter

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Bacolod/ Iloilo Portrait Services: Step by Step Colored Portrait

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Bacolod/ Iloilo Portrait Services: Step by Step Colored Portrait

“With courage and joy, I pursue my life with celebration and creativity.”

This above Declaration wouldn’t be made possible without God’s guidance in my year of 2017 Jubilee and this girl’s timely intro into my life. 🙂 She and God just released so much grace and celebration into my life.

This is my second colored portrait. The first one is a pastel and colored pencil on felt. It is a self portrait back in 1996. There’s so much heaviness in making art so much that this is the next one and so much grace flows I easily finished it! I believe God has really provided so much healing and restoration in my heart. Of course wht made it easier is I’m inspired hehehe.

Ian Jay Bantilan Self Portrait - Iloilo - Bacolod

Ian Jay Bantilan Self Portrait – Iloilo – Bacolod

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How to Hurt Less after a Loss (of Love)

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How to Hurt Less after a Loss (of Love) or
Why my first loss didn’t hurt as it should

She came back and saw me. Small talk. Then she dropped the nuclear. It came with fire. It explodes! I squinted through the smoke.

After a few seconds, I check for damage. I was unhurt. But how?

It’s not me like me. I remember once during 2008 recession when my company let me go. That was a rejection bomb. By the way, the stronghold spirits operating in my life is the Spirit of Rejection and Spirit of Fear. They have full control. So when my boss spoke the word, it felt like the whole sky turned black and dark all of a sudden. A heaviness fell over my heart and a dagger plunged deep into my soul. Ouch!! As much as I want to look casual and fine, I can’t. I looked broken and hurt. That is the power of a stronghold.

The Bomb of Rejection

The Bomb of Rejection

But this was a major bomb. It was a nuclear. And it was my first hopeful relationship. But why was I unscathed? I may be wrong, but this is why I didn’t hurt as much as I should from this loss.

Disclaimer: This is not reality as I may still be in denial. But this is as honest as I could on what my perspective looks like.

Love hurting from loss

Love hurting from loss

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180413 Revelation: My Own Gundam Suit

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180413 Revelation: My Own Gundam Suit

I was worshiping here in Bacolod and just allow God to speak.

God poured out His heart for me and assured me of His presence in my life. He was saying “this ride looks crazy as it is Ian. And you haven’t even started yet. I have to show you many things. I have a lot in store for you.” I just felt so blessed, to be chosen of God. The word in Psalms 23 kept running back in my mind: “surely goodness and mercy will keep running after you all the days of your life and I will thrive and never leave the presence of God every day of my life.” I can feel that it isn’t the place that will prosper me. Even Dubai, the US or Australia which are prosperous nations are nothing to compare with how I bless you. Imagine it, God will bless you just because you step onto their place – it is you who command the blessing to them. In Jesus, the blessings of Abraham are in YOU!

Angelic Demons Spiritual Form

Angelic Demons Spiritual Form (Sorry I can’t find something more closer to how they look)

While I was a teen, I read a Satanist-turned-Christian write about her experience how she was set free by Jesus. She describe these spirits physically as she saw them, including the big man himself! While she was sincere about how she experienced demonic oppression, it was not helpful for me because one of my weakness is the spirit of fear.  She describe demons as angelic beings who were handsome, 12 foot human like creatures who have thick dark black scales as armor and wings. They were skilled in their chosen field of expertise like the demon of Lust, demon of Alcohol, demon of Drugs, demon of Cancer, etc. I was pretty much paranoid as I imagined demons in everything that goes wrong in my life. The spirit of fear, drowned the oftentimes soft voice of God in my life. Continue reading

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The Path to Freedom is Love

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Life Begins Here

For many times in my life, I don’t want to go through the process. I just want the results. I want the intimacy, not the spending time. I want the faith, I don’t want the desperation. I want healthy boundaries; I don’t want the mistakes to find it. I want the hope, not the falling and standing up. I want the girl, not the challenge. Well, life is about taking the journey to get to your destination. 😀

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

A little child of faith on a long impossible journey

For some reason the journey gets heavier because of “culture” and “Christian tradition”. At other times, we put it on ourselves. I am a perfectionist, and though I talk about the Grace and Love of God, in practice I am blind and continue to work for God to accept me. There are some practices that hurt our journey by putting heavy rocks onto our already heavy load. Then we burden Continue reading

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The “Being” of Experiencing God

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The “being” of Experiencing God

This morning, now my 6th day in my room, as I was looking for my Oil Pastel set (still looking for it) I found these.

the Gift of nice shoes

the Gift of nice shoes

Looks like a nice new pair of shoes. But nothing unusual you would say. But in fact what’s unusual is it’s been there beside my bed since December when I received it. Sorry Tita Leny. Sounds like my experience with God.

I have been too familiar with my life, but He’s always ‘game’ for a puzzle of hide n’ seek all the time. There are promises waiting for us in the background screaming in my face, yet all I could see is my sin, my job, my stuff, my business, my ministry. Have you taken time to smell the flowers lately?

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April Fools Pranks to Live by

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April Fools Pranks to Live by

I woke up today to the sound of “My Love will See You Through”. I felt like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Though I don’t intend to offend fans of older music, it was just depressing for me. . . Being serious in life has its down time. Ten years ago, I thought that being at the top and getting all the honors in university is everything that matters. I’ve had times where people admired me for being young and getting my license.

Feels good.

But as I focus on what else will bring you to the top, the trying gets exhausting. Only to find that when you get at the top, it is a far lonely place. Especially if you didn’t bring the people that mattered. I learned that what was actually important is friends, family and people you have shared your life with. Continue reading

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Morning Devotions: Coffee or the Cup on Easter

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Life Begins Here

Yesterday, while I was visiting a Christian bookstore, I saw this guy, probably a pastor, dressed well, ask for a King James Bible. But more than asking, he was babbling that Christians have been dabbling and changing the verses. That would have been okay but the message was, you mister bible sales guy have to agree with me. He was probably a conservative.

For most of my life, I have tried to change the world according to my world view. So when God reveals His plan for all mankind, Star Wars – Return of the Jedi style, I couldn’t help but imagine that when I share the gospel with people, they all look at me with eyes glazing and say “that’s awesome.” Continue reading

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180325 Revelation: The Liberation

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18 Mar 25 Revelation: The Liberation

As I sat comfortably on my trip going back to Bacolod. I put on my worship music.

Once I started to listed. I could literally feel God translated me to a deeper dimension.

He was saying “All this concerns you have. Have no fear. I can take care of you. You are no longer an orphan. I am your real Father. I can provide you all you need and all your desires too.”

God then walked me back to when I was 4 years old. I could sense the emptiness and the void in my heart. All throughout we went until we saw me in high school. I could again sense the shame and brokenness.

Alone time in Prayer

Alone time in Prayer

“Do you know know I was there all along. I purposed you with these weakness because I had a beautiful plan in your life.” Continue reading

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Dreams don’t come instantly, heres why

Dreams don’t come instantly. Here’s why.

It pays to let God. He’s never late.

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180228 Vision: the Curse of Cain

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180228 Vision: the Curse of Cain

As I was worshiping, a thick presence of the Lord fell upon me and His love surrounded like a cloud. And then the voice started.

“I know you since you were born, I knit you together in your mothers womb.” Then all my concerns came back to me as the declaration of the worship song flooded my mind. “I am no longer a slave to fear.” Then God reminded me of so many situations that fear is overpowering in my life.

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Vision Feb 07 2018 The Father’s Heart

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The Road to Healthy Boundaries

Father is holding his Son

Father is holding his Son

Father is holding his Son
Father is holding his Son

Then He transported me into the heavenly realms. I filled my heart with worship and gave it to Him. He said “You don’t have to”.

I said “I want to.”

He answered “You don’t have to.”

I replied “I want to worship you Lord.”

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Some Messages to Pepper the Girl on Valentine’s

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Some Messages to Pepper the Girl on Valentine’s

At this 3rd decade, I’m still learning to get dates. I’ve learned to appreciate my seasons. Here’s a few messages to give the girl on your mind on this month of love.

Romantic Attraction Quotes and Pickup Lines

Romantic Attraction Quotes and Pickup Lines

  1. You were amazing last night. Imagine what it would be like if it wasn’t just in my dreams.
  2. I really like our friendship but do you want to make it more?
  3. Can I see what’s in your pockets; I think you’ve stolen my heart.
  4. You’re already on my mind and I’ve just woken up.
  5. Do you have a to-do list? If yes, put me on it.
  6. Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
  7. I’m a bit like a Rubik’s cube, I get harder the more you play with me.
  8. I understand you don’t want any more children, but is there any change we could practice tonight?
  9. The best thing about a keyboard is that U and I are together.
  10. Don’t tire yourself out at work. You’ll need some energy for later.
  11. At night time I sleep dreaming of you, and in the daytime I dream sleeping with you.
  12. I’m trying my best to fall asleep, but I just can’t stop thinking about you.
  13. You looked so beautiful the last time I saw you I forgot my pickup line.
  14. Every time you enter the room, you enter my heart.
  15. Send me a picture, so I can give Santa my wish list.
  16. Here’s hoping your day consist of . . . . and the quickest route to bring you straight into my arms.
  17. On a beautiful day like this, the only thing that could improve is having you by my side.
  18. A hundred miles away and you’re still right here in my heart.
  19. I wish I was your mirror so that I could look at you every morning.
  20. You’re so hot I get a tan every time I look at you.
  21. Sweet dreams. I hope I was in them. 😉
  22. Don’t listen to your friends, listen to your heart!!
  23. The next time you see your parents, send them my sincerest gratitude.
  24. Can you send me a picture; my friends don’t believe that angels exist.
  25. God created the world in six days, rested on the 7th but it took Him thousands of years to produce someone as beautiful as you.
  26. This email is a group message to 10/10 girls in the area. Currently you are the only recipient.
  27. I’m tired at work because I’m a perfectionist in most things I do. That’s why I like you so much.
  28. You look a lot like my next girlfriend!
  29. Do you know any good heart doctor, because my heart skips a beat looking in your eyes.
  30. Of all the stars in the sky, there is not as beautiful as you.

Warning: Don’t try this on strangers. The author holds no responsibility if any slaps are given or police called when you try this on strangers. 🙂

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My Virtual Love Life in One Tree Hill

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My Virtual Love Life in One Tree Hill

I’ve never really lived in community. I was the outcast trying to fit i, in high school or college. By college, I had some clout attending Victory and studying in one of Asia’s premier university and got some status man of God, desirable, intelligent. So much for a guy who based his identity on how popular he is, not on how many women he slept with, how many drunken parties he’s been to and how much money he had. Hint: the last three – none.

So when I was isolated working in a far off Arab country, the things that you didn’t pursue as a college boy begin to haunt you. Especially one fact that I still didn’t have a girlfriend. So when the opportunity to vicariously live this life I desired to have, keeps dangling in a series, I was entranced! It can’t get anything better than this!

One Tree Hill Lead Characters

One Tree Hill Lead Characters

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Learning to Trust God

Lesson in trust

For most my life I trust only what I can see. But often we only see part of what God is doing. I try to peice but it is not mine to figure out.

This is the window of view where most of the times, God sovereignly covers our view with blur. But the reality of His purpose is the one below. Continue reading

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10 Things I learned from Drei: What a Future Dad Wants to Know

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10 Things I learned from Drei: What a Future Dad Wants to Know

Would you believe that in high school, I only wanted to marry a girl but never want to have children?


Younger Carefree Me

Younger Carefree Me – cant find any hilarious me pic. Sorry Ghe, haha!

I dread having to wash soiled laundry, wake at every hour in the morning, keep all 2 hands occupied (not being able to defend myself for any ninja or terrorist attack) and eat half-consumed food – a simple glimpse of a sanitized, single and carefree me. But as I grew older, I matured and learned to see differently.

I yearn to be a dad.

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Live Die Repeat: What to do when you’re Stuck

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Live Die Repeat: Courage to Move Forward


I was looking to re-watch the films that made an impression on me this year. I could remember that “Edge of Tomorrow” was one of them. The films stars Tom Cruise and the beautiful Emily Blunt. The story is about an alien invasion of earth. Continue reading

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2018: Courage to Dare, a Self Prophecy

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2018: Courage to Dare, a Self Prophecy

As I write this journal of today, I feel a new excitement that grips me. There is  a warmth and thrill of facing the coming new year. Intentions are powerful as they convey the meaning of our purpose. Here are the things I am eager about.

On January of 2018,

I see myself a better brother to Jerry.
I am going to love my sister a little bit more.
I am going to love friends differently.

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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

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Taking Time to Smell the Flowers

Most of my life it feels is about measuring up and being ahead of everyone else. The problem isn’t that I’m not brilliant but that its hard to be the most promising entrepreneur, the budding architect-designer and the successful man-in-relationship.

I just heard from a podcast that life just happens. Our best laid plans fire away. It is easy to be tough on yourself and beat yourself up for not succeeding this time.

As I take this long walk home at 12:30am, I discover that there is so much love along the way. This new home away from home. I have cared about things and achievements for far too long. I’ve passed this site where once stood a very frustrated, angry and lost man. I saw my first day of work and all the insecurities of trying to look good and Continue reading

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Iloilo-Bacolod Fastcraft and Ship Travel Schedule 2017

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Iloilo-Bacolod Fastcraft and Ship Travel Schedule 2017

Cebu Adventure on the Highest Seas and Badian

Guimaras Adventure on the Highest Seas

The cit1y of Iloilo has become one of the must-visit places in the country. With the growth of its Business Process Outsourcing (BPO – Call Center industry) and the blossoming of its coastal river paradise, it has become a magnetic attractor of tourist. I have seen it grow from my arrival here at 2014, with over 20 couples from Manila and all over the country relocating here. All for good reason.

A stone’s throw away from Iloilo is Bacolod City, an equally majestic city with a

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One day, while I was riding the public transport, I happen to sit beside this beautiful blond 3 year old sitting on the lap of her nanny. I saw that all the passengers were charmed by her cuteness and I too fell in love. How can an English speaking toddler not find her way into your heart. Two young ladies took an special interest in the girl Continue reading

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33 Nuggets of Wisdom for Wives, Future Wives and Moms

When I was in college I was a hopeless romantic, clueless in real relationships. After countless religious youth meetings and fired up motivational speeches in finding the ideal woman, I finally put down my non-negotiables in an ideal lady-to-marry.

Here’s the final four:

A. Raised like a queen (confident)
B. Motherly (personifies kindness and compassion)
C. Passionate about Jesus
D. Intelligent

Fast forward to 10 years, working and eternally single, a lot has changed in my expectations. (Most to blame is all the Disney movies that mess up my expectations) 🙂 Hehe! Continue reading

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The Blessing of Family and Pets

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The Blessing of Family and Pets

Last Sunday, I met our fun loving new American bulldog Buddee. He was very charming. I heard from my brother that we just got him that morning. He was a very spirited dog, an overexcited little mutt.  As I walked him around the lawn, his hurried sniffing antics and careless running about hit me. Suddenly I was endeared to him.

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Today I meet a legend.

I usually save 15% of salary. That is here in the Philippines. That goes negative from December to January. When IU worked aborad I reached 45%.

I have never met anyone except for some Chinese friends who are really extreme. But tonight, I was surprised to find someone who save so much. And I thought I was already thrifty.

Some spoilers:
She’s single.
She walks home.
She has provincial allowance (Manila hired to work here)
And she has a considerable amount in stocks.
But I have never seen her in fancy clothes.
Very low profile indeed!

1. Anything is possible. It is common that budget adjust with salary. It doesn’t have to.
2. We have to live in our own reality. You-me-different.
3. It’s important to know what you want and attack it with passion. No one will force you to do what you don’t want.

Now, I’m asking, how much are you saving monthly? (as a percentage of your income)

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Arki Thesis blues: the Difference between Concept and Philosophy?

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Arki Thesis blues: the Difference between Concept and Philosophy?

During my student years, concepts and philosophy never got explained clearly. It’s one of those things you read from the Project brief and your kind of catch from comparing notes with what your best friend did in Architecture School.
Architecture Sketch - Design Concept -Frank Gehry Partners

Architecture Sketch – Design Concept -Frank Gehry Partners

One of the challenge during school was that in UST, it always rained. And the guys who top the board exams are simply brilliant, hard researching dudes with monster drawing skills. Back to Architecture – here’s the Question: What is a concept?

A design concept is a statement that expresses your approach to the design problem. The concept speaks to a specific problem/project but is still in line with your Design Philosophy. It creates a connection between the design problem and the design solution. The concept is consistent throughout the design itself. Your concept should relate

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The Jordan: Crossing the Promised Land

Filipinos are a breed of sentimental people. They seldom like goodbyes. But there was one goodbye from this place a thousand years ago that was equally heavy emotionally: Moses who has fought and prayed and fasted to reach the Promise Land is a few kilometers of his goal but God says, this is as far as you can go. From the thick air which blurs out the whole valley, we could see miles and miles of endless sand, glimmering in the morning sun while cool breeze blow through my face.

This is Mount Nebo in Jordan.

How we ended there? is a long story. This how its happened.


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Comfort Zone Challenge – Meeting in Israel – Completion Episode

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Comfort Zone Challenge – Joyfully Meeting Israel

Completion Episode

Surprise! I am back with a vengeance. They say “it doesn’t matter how small the gate or charge with judgement the scroll, I am the captain of my fate.”

1000 year old mosaic of a Christian Church in Nebo in Jordan

Arch Ian Jay in front of a 1000 year old mosaic of a Christian Church in Nebo in Jordan

I am delighted to find that I have actually completed my adventure in Israel to meet 10 pretty non-filipino women and have a picture with them. For others this may not be significant but the lessons in life is most significant to the learner, not the audience. I am sharing this to share my joy of completion. If you haven’t read the previous post Joyfully Meeting Girls in Israel part 1.

Enter Comfort Zone Challenge

Again what is a Comfort Zone challenge? Comfort Zone challenges are planned actions to face a fear with the primary goal of overcoming this fear or increasing your courage and confidence. This action includes a calculated risk of negative social evaluation but does not expose you to real danger or long-term negative consequences.”

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Spoken Word: Love at Eighty-fa–v (85)

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Spoken Word: I wanna fall in Love at 85
Written and performed by IN-Q

Living Present Loveing Future

Living Present Loveing Future

I wanna fall in Love at 85
Go on shuffleboard dates and dance to hip-hop from ‘95
Our song would be Staying Alive, but only for the message
Otherwise we’d keep away from disco, it’s depressing
We’d rock matching tracksuits and rope gold chains
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Funny Antedotes about Self-Forgiveness

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From Mark Rutland of Every Nation World Conference.

Dr Mark Rutland

Dr Mark Rutland

Some years ago a magazine put out a survey. They asked their readers to tell them “What the most they most would love to hear another person to say to them. “What would you like another person to say to you?” Out of the thousands and thousands of responses. They brought it down to the top three.

Covenants and Forgiveness

Covenants and Forgiveness

Three things that Americans want to be “said to you”.

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LCC- Marker / Basic Architecture Rendering using Markers

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Basic Architecture Rendering using Markers
by Arch Ian Jay Bantilan

Prismacolor Marker Tip

Prismacolor Marker Tip

Mark ‘yer Qualities.

Markers are colored pens with tips made of porous material like felt. Most markers today are alcohol based and hence have a cap to prevent rapid evaporation of your prescious ink.

The proffessional markers have 2 tips – the thin point side (1) and the wide wedge (2). Some will have a nib similar to fountain pens (3).

Markers can have the tendency to leak everywhere if not controlled right. You must develop the skill to control how the ink flows to your paper by applying different pressure and varying the angle of touching the paper. Like any other medium, markers lend a different feel to colours and pictures in general. I personally think that markers can be the easiest to control amongst traditional liquid colouring techniques.

Select your Paper.
Different qualities of Markers will have different marks on paper. Different papers can also enhance or destroy your render. It is best to try your marker on paper before you do an all-out rendering marathon. It’s easier to work on a paper that gives you a hand.


Find What You Love by Steve Jobs

Archian - Life, Bacolod, Architecture, Finances & DubaiI can’t help but make another post about this man: Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios. Please bear with me, this next post is the Speech for the  Commencement address on June 12, 2005. (See the Video in the Middle of the Post)

FIND WHAT YOU LOVE by Apple CEO Steve Jobs

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from Continue reading

Top 12 Things to Feel Bad on Christmas

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Top 12 Things to Feel Bad on Christmas

I was studying about the Bible’s take on emotions of joy and sadness when I chance upon my cousin Joan. Our discussion covered Christian holidays and eventually . . . Christmas.

Our talked dragged on. She told me that she stopped celebrating Christmas 4 years ago. Not celebrating Christmas is a tricky thing. [more] There are two ways you could look: you can be a mystical person holding a “Be saved. Rapture is near.” sign or you could be borderline totally insane. Everyone should love Christmas. In order to not celebrate Christmas, you need to have strong personal beliefs and reasons why you do it. Else people will brand you as the grinch.

In short, why do she not celebrate Christmas?

So before I answer this questions, let me give you 12 things to feel bad about on Christmas.

  1. The pressure to buy gifts you don’t want to buy to give to people because you have to give them gifts.
  2. From Jan Jeff: The extra lbs/kgs that you will gain – pero masaya naman i burn lang ulit through exercise 🙂
  3. The pictures of your friends that look happy on social media while you haven’t reconciled with your with your family for a decade. Plus the stress because you feel the need to reconcile.
  4. The office skipped you for the nth time on your promotion while the new hire gets a raise after a few months
  5. From my cousin: Maxing out your credit cards. And very excited to start the next year with huge debt!
  6. The reality that you are still single (that’s me) and you don’t have someone to kiss for Christmas and New Year.
  7. Your neighbor or peers took a vacation this year that you really want and you work harder than. . . .
  8. You can’t afford the gadgets and doodads you want to give yourself this year.
  9. Someone had an accident, died or business was bad for you this year. Or you are not with someone you love. 😦
  10. Your company didn’t give you as much bonus pay than you expected.

11. Still missing

12. Still missing

Maybe you could add what will make you feel bad this coming Christmas!

Please note that these things are the same things you feel bad at any part of the year. The gigantic reason it feels worse is that you, yes you, have the expectation that great things should happen.

In short, you have expectations that it should be better. Only because it’s Christmas. (Valid reason why)

Now your perfectly powerful brain figures out how to make your expectations real 24-7. Without rest.

I shared with my cousin Joan that every Christmas I feel deppressed and lonely. Especially that my birthday is on the first week of January and I have not yet accomplished the greatness I wanted since I was a kid. 😦

She said I am not alone. She feels the same way. Countless others like me are out there pushing to look happier than we actually are, give things we dont want to give and be nice to everyone. That’s not bad.

The sad thing was I thought I was the only one experiencing this. Like me, many people are not aware they are feeling deppressed.

So what are the 3 reasons people feel bad on Christmas? I already mentioned the first one.

  1. Expectations
  2. Lack of awareness
  3. Negative Traditional Baggage

The 3 Reasons why Christmas can Feel Bad

1. Expectations.

It is not the devil that causes the negative emotions. It is our expectations about it to be what it is not.

So how you you resolve this?

You tell yourself I want my Christmas to be. . . . and I am ok that it is not.

2. Lack of Awareness

The first step is to slow down. The second part is to see your emotions pull you around. Ouch please stop it envy! Stop it.

Being dragged around by your evil overlord emotions is a nasty thing. Especially if you don’t know it so start watching your emotions.

The third is something deeper and spiritual.

3. Negative Traditional Baggage

Much of the world has been taught that Christmas marks the birth of the savior, Jesus Christ. A long time ago people celebrated Christmas and Halloween very differently. The two most notable pagan winter holidays were Germanic Yule and Roman Saturnalia. When Emperor Theodosius decreed the empire wide celebration of Christ’s birth, he was trying to silence the tradition of Barbaric tribes winter solstice festivals. The result is Christmas with a lot of pine trees wreath and holly.

Halloween traditions originated from ancient Celtic harvest festivals like the Gaelic Samhain. It was Christianized as Halloween by the early Church.

What’s wrong with these pagan roots of Christmas?


Nothing except that for hundreds of years there is defilement of sin. Centuries of blood sacrifice and sexual perversion can have a strong influence on current time.

I’m not saying Christmas is pagan. Im just saying that although Jesus blood has definitely paid for the defilement of sin on the timeline, it continues to affect everyone on the winter solstice.

Take for example a child who was kidnapped and raised by a cruel man who hurt the child every Friday night. Then, after 2 years the child was rescued by police and returned to his real parents. Would you say that the child can sleep soundly when strangely he experiences stress and deep breaths at exactly the same time as Friday night?

A counselor can reprogram the child’s thoughts to release the negative memory on his timeline but only through deliberate psychiatric help.

If you are feeling deppressed this Christmas. Break free from the chains. Reflect on your emotions and change your expectations. Think about this: a gift given on Christmas eve is half as amazing as the same gift given at a random date. Worse if the person received a spectacular gift last year, he or she would feel disappointed no matter what you gave.

I could remember throwing tantrums always either before, on or after Christmas day. It might be my Spanish roots (Celtic? I don’t really know. I still feel sad on Christmas. I was not aware of this before. Now, I can do something about it.

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Secret Non-Believers Know about Christians

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Secret Non-Believers Know about Christians

A page from the book, The Briarpatch Gospel: Fearlessly Following Jesus into Thorny Places by Shayne Wheeler.

An excerpt from the book tells a story of modern day churches as it reaches out to non-church people. Enjoy.

Within hours, my high flying dream of evangelistic stardom had begun to stall as, one after another, the disinterested denizens of Brighton Beach accepted one of our tracts, gave it a quick glance and dropped it without even breaking stride. The discarded leaflets began to pile up in the trash cans and blow like forsaken tumbleweeds on the streets of this bustling city. “Rather than capturing a city for Christ, we were creating more work for the New York City sanitation workers. By the end of the day, my evangelistic fervor was in a steep death spiral

Welcome to earth, Shayne. I hope you enjoyed your flight.

By the third day, embarrassment had given way to a growing cynicism. We decided to move our team our to the famous boardwalk, where folks would presumably be more jovial, friendly, and open to our efforts.

This was not a good move.

The unrepentant littering continued. One member of our team approached two men who may have been members of the Russian mafia. After treating him to a litany of profanity and threats, on of the men pulled bakc his jacket to reveal a holstered handgun, not so politely inviting our teenager to walk away and not return.

Things were not going as planned.

Disillusioned, I stopped near a bench overlooking the ocean, where an elderly gentleman in a well word fedora sat watching the waves, wooden cane hooked on the backrest. Judging him unlikely to be hiding a gun under his faded green summer jacket, I at down to lick my wounds.

Maniplating People to Receive Jesus

Maniplating People to Receive Jesus

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The Pain of Jezebel and the Power of Compassion

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The Pain of Jezebel and the Power of Compassion

I have a confession. I have the Jezebel spirit.

Yes. I’m a controller. And I’m not proud of it.

This morning as I walk my way to breakfast, I was worshipping and thanking God. I was so full of joy. Then the Father, came around and smiled. He sat me down and told me, “Ian, you are a Jezebel.”

[more]I answered, “Yeah, how come?”. Then I started reflecting on my life. I check. I reasoned.

It was really so.

Of course, when the Father tells you something bad, it never feels hurtful. It was a soothing fatherly concern. The Father, I assume, has already studied the implications of me learning this truth in my life and decided, “Ian is my son. He is a tiger. He is ready to deal with it.”

What is the Jezebel Spirit?

1 Kings 18:4
“Earlier, when Jezebel had tried to kill off all the prophets of God, Obadiah hid away a hundred of them in two caves, fifty in a cave, then supplied them with food and water.”

Jezebel was a queen in Israel who made his husband, the Israelite king look like a puppet. She was that obsessively controlling and powerful. In this passage we see her killing hundreds of prophets like casually slicing tomatoes on the counter.

There has been many misonceptions about the Jezebel spirit. Our fears has never resolved the problem. Heres the Lies and the Truth:
1. The Jezebel spirit is a psychopath who needs to die in hell. Wrong. The person typically is a good person with very painful past experiences.

The 1 Kings story sounds like Hitler killing the Jews. Yes it is. Is she really a good person? Read on.
2. Jezebel is a woman.


They can be a man or a woman. Wow, now you feel I mixed up the genders too. Read on.
3. Jezebel is a curable condition. There are many ways to heal it.

Having cleared out the generalities, who is a Jezebel?

The Jezebel spirit is a manifestation of an orphan spirit of control, manipulation and witchcraft because of an abuse or abandonment by an authority very early on in childhood.

The abuse or abandonment leads the person to make a vow that “This abuse will never ever happen again.” This vow becomes a wall of the stronghold spirit of Jezebel

To learn more about strongholds, check out the next article about strongholds.

With a nice main house of wrong beliefs built, the person becomes blind to reality and is paranoid about everything. When a lad was raped as a child beside her yellow duck toy. Years later as an adult, she will not work but keep protecting herself from attacks, ducks and everything yellow in color, even when asleep. This saps her energy. She is in the prison of her past.

She starts the brick and concrete construction of structures for controlling situations so that the person will never be hurt again. Unfortunately this positive desire to “not be hurt” is also healthy mechanism to deal with intense hurt designed by the Father. Sadly, it becomes a bondage against her ability to be free.

My Story.
I am what you call a typical christian in a christian home. I grew up in sunday school and bible verses. Nothing unusual with that. During my high school, I was “driven” and full of fear. I was paranoid of everything.

I was afraid to get lost. I was afraid of other people deceiving and stealing from me. I was afraid of authorities: pastors, police, teachers, principals.

Take that 10 years later. I am now a professional. Now consider this, everytime I get a call from a manager to his office, there is an overwhelming panic. I start to make a complete book of reasons that “I am dumb and I am an incompetent idiot.” In my mind, I write a complete novel seeking to understand, “what was my mistake.” The truth is: the manager wants to ask where to go lunch. Call that paranoid but that is how it feels to have the desease. I come to office everyday afraid of what things will go wrong. This is constant in my 20 years of practice. I tell you when you are like this you never get to relax.

I am blessed today to know where it comes from. When I was a baby, I experienced a physical and emotional neglect from my dad.

Let me underline I experienced. It is my own perceptions that poison the good reasons why my dad did what he did. But the situation was also reality.

My dad was the eldest, he is also self employed. As a young boy, he took care of his five siblings. He carried the family the whole time. He made milk for his brothers together with my grandmother. He changed diapers and washed them everyday before and after going to his fourth level elementary school. At lunch, he would go home, cook rice and change diapers again before coming back to class. Today, as a lawyer and accountant, my dad is very successful because he has learned to be competent in taking care of other people. As manager, he works long hours.

Therefore, my dad’s decision to never touch my diapers was a valid one. And his reason was that he had taken care of my aunts and uncles. He wasn’t even entitled to the toys he carved by his hands. As a stepson (by my grandmother, with my remarried grandfather), he too was experiencing being an orphan. That can grow into the gene of Jezebel.

Only now do I understand all my anger against authorities. I see that I am angry that “authorities” (my dad) are perceived to be distancing themselves from being connected to me. My dad on his own part did not deliberately isolate me, he was only thinking of freedom and responsibility. He was responsible for diapers and poop of 5 siblings, therefore he has graduated from taking care of me physically. He chose the freedom not to change diapers and clean poo.

Freedom and Responsibility.
Arthur Burk describes the relationship of freedom and responsibility. Freedom is the autonomy and free will to do what you really want. It is a being, not a doing. It is the ability to stand in dominion over your life. Therefore any peice of control from things, people and situations diminishes that autonomy.

Let me illustrate. A person who can choose to smoke is free. A person who can drink is free. A person who is single is free to date. A person is free to choose not to obey rules.


A person who is smoking is in bondage to smoking. A person who is drinking is in bondage to drinking. A person who is going to church and can’t decide to stop is in bondage to church. A person who can’t keep his sexual urges is in bondage to them. A person who can’t avoid hurting others is in bondage.

What is a person who is in bondage then? A person in bondage is one who has no influence over his situation. He has no choice. Freedom and responsibility has a close relationship.

Mcdonald’s has the freedom to receive my money and my order. Mcdonald’s also has a responsibility to deliver that burger. I as a customer have the freedom to choose where to eat and free to buy a Mcdonald’s cheeseburger meal. I also have the responsibility to pay for it. If Mcdonald’s took my money and my order but did not give me my my cheeseburger, they are totally free to do that. They are also liable to authorities if I take the freedom to report the problem. It is also my freedom to report the incident and I am responsible and free with how I respond whether I report it or not.

Where we miss life.
When we live life as a practice solely of responsibility, we miss the beauty and the colors of freedom. If we are afraid of making mistakes, we limit our freedom to hurt somebody, to learn how to make adjustments, gain wisdom, and enjoy life.

My dad, because of his choice to use his freedom, to not play an active role in my “infanthood” resulted in my orphan spirit and my wrong responses to life now. Today I have full responsibility over my life. Yet because of certain emotional handicaps I am not aware of, I have practically limited freedom to act in areas I am supposedly free to do.

An example is a rape victim. After the incident, the person continues to have full freedom to pursue healthy relationships. But because of trauma she is limited emotionally to pursue healthy relationships unless she unlearns the lies she learned.

Causes of Jezebel Spirit.
In homes, there are many ways children can be hurt. Children can be manipulated to work (take part of the responsibility away from the parents) to provide resources to the family. Making children work from a young age is healthy. But making them take more responsibility than they can handle can be emotional abuse on their young emotions.

Children who suffer violence from authority – parents, teachers and guardians become broken.

Children who were molested, raped or deceived by authorities have a high chance of having a Jezebel spirit.

Children who are kidnapped, held up, offered to satanism, brainwashed in communism or Islamic extremism, ritual offering abuse or hypnotized can also experience devastation.

Men and women with unstable emotions who experience a painful past are prone. They develop self protection “I will never allow myself to be hurt again.” That is the seed for the Jezebel spirit in action. Build a few brick per day and we have a castle in a few years.

The children who experienced deep pain and abuse from authority typically respond in two ways, the Jezebel spirit or the Ahab Spirit.

The Ahab spirit comes from the description of King Ahab in Israel. He was king, but it was his controlling wife who was taking charge of the kingdom. Violence can frighten a manor woman’s spirit so that he becomes handicapped: unable to take healthy risks and losses.

That is my experience. Because of an orphan spirit, it takes more effort to make risks and choices that will allow me to learn. I shortcircuit my learning so that I only make “safe” choices. I am certainly not happy about it.

A century ago an evil dictator was born. It is not clear how he was hurt, but the hurt was evident when he came to power.

The spirit of Jezebel is present in all of us but it becomes evident when a person gains authority and power. The dictator vented his anger on peole who he think hurt him when perhaps only one did.

At the end of World War II, the world still has not learned its lesson. We put effort in in protecting ourselves from extremists and terrorists instead of taking positive action to prevent “orphaned spirit” into spreading enough that statistically one of them comes to power.

A century ago, many orphaned peacekeepers (political leaders of France, US and England) had the Ahab spirit. They didn’t act at a crucial time against Germany because they were afraid of taking expensive risks. What happened was an unrestrained exercise by Adolf Hitler to invade all of Europe while the allied powers remained paralyzed to step in and say, I have moral authority. We care for you but this is as far as you can go.

The experience of freedom is not measured by the money you have, your level of success or power, or your abundance of knowledge. If you need to be a lawyer or doctor to be a worthy person, that can be measured as negative 50 units of freedom. If you need to kill people to prove your value, that is probably a negative 70 units of freedom. We all have areas of bondage or negative freedom to some extent, especially if we measure our worth by these metrics. Cute or not we are all our own little Jezebels or Ahabs in different areas of our lives.

Now that we know what insecurity looks like, what does freedom feels like? Do you know it can be measured too?

If insecurity can be measured by the amount of dependence on money, power, success and knowledge, what is the measure for freedom?

Freedom is measured by the ability you can receive love from the Father and the ability to receive and give love to other people. This is the foundation of security. This is what you call perfection.

Imagine for a moment a recession. Imagine that while the world suffers fear of failure and loss, you are free. You are not dependent on the economy as your source. You are aware that the Father takes care of you even in desperate situations.

This does not mean that bad or painful things don’t happen. It does. It only means that in spite of situations you have full freedom.

You are free to enjoy life with or without money. You have freedom to accept you are in a recession. If you need to give up your car, you can do so without emotional baggage.

That is just 30 units of freedom. If you can celebrate while giving to those in need, that is higher authority. that is probably 60 units of freedom.

If that counts as 60 units, what counts as a hundred?

It is deliberately giving your life for people who are Jezebels, Ahabs and cowards. Jesus was the first person to love completely and committed suicide. He chose to die, out of love. Now that’s Jesus, you are not God. As God, He was free to give all. Like Him, you can increase freedom Too.

There was a group discussion last night about the definition of freedom. I gave an answer that is not actually mine. I learned it from Arthur Burke. He said that “Freedom is when there is nothing left to lose.”

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Personal Coaching Consultation

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How to Clean your Life

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How to Clean your Life

Have you experienced trying to clean house and after a little stroll, to come back finding it dirty again?

If you do, you can be one of millions of moms around the world without a help and cleaning up after their kids. In this case, kids are a good problem. They are a “good” mess to have around.

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How to Redeem our Professions from the Devourer

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How to Redeem our Professions from the Devourer

When I was a boy, I would yawn when I attend Sunday School. I think this thing about love was a lot of @/#$@)+. When can we fly and kick butt? Why do the church have to be so full of softies? (Please don’t judge me, I’m making a point)

Fast forward to two weeks ago when I “accidentally” had a training – training for God’s Kingdom’s Elite Forces. We are invisible to earth forces radar. By the way, you are reading this article because the Father specifically lead you to read this. I don’t totally know how it works, but God directs every part of our life. We have the freedom to accept His direction or knowingly /unknowingly resist His leading.

Today I get a letter that I am recruited to be part of God’s Kingdom Special Forces. It says that all my life was basic training. I was already in it since 4 years old. I got recruited because of 1. God’s grace 2. My willingness to suffer mental, financial and personal pain and loss for the sake of the Kingdom. No less than the King Himself, the Lord Jesus Christ inspects the recruits.

I am amazed how God designs clinical stealth strikes to the enemy. In each case, God raises people who are like terrorists: willing to love God and suffer loss for the kingdom. But the goal isn’t to kill bad people. It is to rescue confused people while they are hostage by terrorist spirits. Part of the challenge is that they themselves don’t want help. Often, the King’s order is to destroy the enemy without hurting the hostage.

Kingdom Special Forces and USA Navy Seals
The Kingdom forces are similar to seals. Seals are trained in the most elite sea rescue missions. Part of their training is to act against the nature of fear and panic while in water. Normal humans can evolve beyond their fear of people, fear of pain, failure (the exact thing) and fear of financial loss.

One of the greatest Kingdom Special Forces was Stephen the Martyr. He infiltrated the kingdom of darkness to reach one of God’s greatest heros, the Apostle Paul. That prayer on his death echoed in the spiritual realms and created cracks all over the barack walls of the enemy. It devastated 43 of the enemy’s powerful weapons. That is the power of a single Kingdom Elite Forces.

The Philippine Professions.
I had heard about the plight of nurses in the country. My first reaction was, thank God I am not a nurse. But after a lot of frustration in my practice, I have come to learn that most people answer like me: I avoid being a nurse. What Kingdom Elite Forces training does is groan and feel broken about other people’s situation. This is because I myself am affected in the situation.

I have learned that many officials in my nation’s are a member of a certain fraternity that mentions Egyptian gods on their own secret files. Most members know they are a socio civic group. Only the top levels like the Grand Master know. These dedicate the whole organization to their gods as these gods make them prosper while oppressing every member of that organization. So when recognize the Egyptian curse at work in my profession, I can feel God’s heart about the issue.

Let me Share the Egyptian Curse
13 The Egyptians made them work hard. They didn’t show them any pity. 14 The people suffered because of their hard labor. The slave drivers forced them to work with bricks and mud. And they made them do all kinds of work in the fields. The Egyptians didn’t show them any pity at all. They made them work very hard. Exodus 1:11-14

These are the same godsI feel that these curse is upon the many professions in the Philippines. This is not a sweeping statement. For now, I can only confirm Architecture and Nursing. You decide what it looks for you.

How to break the curse? To answer that let me tell a story from Arthur Burk. He tells a story of a group of missionaries accessing a City in Argentina. The city in Argentina operates in the gift of ruler. On the first week the missionaries shared the gospel. The residents never listened. After seeking God they understood the strategy. They have to come in the opposite spirit: humility.

The next day bowing down and operating in the spirit of humility, the residents listened to them.

10 Air Strikes to the enemy Camp, can only be Authorized by Elite Kingdom Forces

In the Egyptian story, God answered the Egyptians with the 10 plagues. Last week, in talking with God, I had an idea of 10 next projects pro bono. Yet I remember that part of our code of ethics is no pro bono services except for charities. So I decide to follow the minimum Egyptian fee for the next projects believing that God can provide me what I need.

This enslaving Egyptian spirit is a battle of sonship. Will you as a Christian be able to totally trust God with your finances rather than the controlling economic spirit? I don’t know but I have walked with God long enough to try. I am not saying this is the way you should do it but you get the gist.

Walking by Faith

The enemy stands on their authority only because of the authority other people have given then. If financial greed and promiscuity is reigning in a city, we could reclaim that authority by a higher level of authority. If the financial greed is -60 points in authority we can overcome it by +100 points in sharing and contentment. If sexual promiscuity is a -30 points we can overcome it by moving in +60 points of living in holiness and integrity.

The key is not about tolerating what is wrong but like Jesus saying I tolerate this because God allowed this. Then after winning back the authority after death, He said “All authority in Heaven and on earth has been given me, so demons shoooo!!!”

If you are a nurse that have experienced injustice and quietly trusted God and not spoken curses against the hospital or emoloyer for 10 salary (3 months), you have already gained that spiritual authority! Please declare the Egyptian authorities over your profession null and void.

In the old covenant, sin infects holiness. In the new covenant through Jesus, sin infects but holiness more powerfully infects sin! The is the glory Elite Kingdom Forces of God! Partner with me as we break the gods in our nation’s profession!